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Why do you think this happens?
| Mon, 02-16-2004 - 9:40am |
I just found something about my OM this weekend that he had omitted to tell because he thought I would turn away from him. It was something that was bothering me not because I knew about it but because I was not told about it. I could have understood a lot of things that went bad between us much better if he had explained it to before. Why do you think that *some* men withhold a whole lot about themselves?? Any male input is welcome.

How about this idea, the male mind tends to be compartmentalized, we OW have one box in there mind , there other boxs belong to them or othere people, so they don't tend to share or think they need to share the rest of there mental boxs with us.
Free
He's a man they do not share naturaly the way women do (at least not most of them).
Free
4JS
There are a plethora of reasons that people don't share everything.
I'm a private person and while I will tell MM most things, (and have told him everything important), it took time for me to decide to open up that much. I still hesitate before I say things...and sometimes that causes misunderstandings.
And MM definitely compartmentalizes. He also doesn't tell me things because he knows that hearing them would hurt me. Sometimes I even appreciate that.
Cazrida
My MM and I are best friends as well. He wants to know my daily plans. This tends to blow my mind, because I've functioned so independently for so long that it just doesn't cross my mind to tell him that I'm going to do xxxxxxxxx.
He tells me his plans as well, so I don't fault him for not sharing. We also discuss his marriage, but right now I'm not saying very much about it. Since he "flinched" when she was going to look for an apartment, I'm trying to be very, very quiet on the subject.
We've made plans for months to attend a convention in two weekends. I don't know if he's going to be able to go now as his wife is expressing an interest in attending. Talk about a major disappointment!
Frankly, I don't do disappointments well...especially not right now. Again, I'm trying to be quiet and let him handle things. I'm forcing myself to remain in a holding pattern, but I can feel myself putting up walls. If I ever get them back in place, I'll turn this to just friends. And I don't look back. He knows this and I can tell that it bothers him, but we'll see.
I keep remembering the rules for EMA's. When it hurts more than it feels good, its time to get out. As much as I love him, I'm close.
Cazrida