Why does he keep doing this to me?

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Why does he keep doing this to me?
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Mon, 09-22-2008 - 11:43am

This man Infuriates me at times!


As I posted before he breaks it off last Tues only to call me later to see if Im ok and when I act as though things are fine and Im ok he acts upset that I am not "crying him a river" He says he just felt guilty and then he says he was just testing me to see how I truly felt. Enough with all the games!!!!!


Now he wants to talk and act as though it didnt happen. I have told him that we should just be friends and talk but have no physical relationship. I love him and he knows this and i dont wanna lose him in my life but i know that he loves his wife and i told him that he needs to be with her and just friends with me.


Well He acts as if they have a bad relationship and does tell me some of the problems but I feel like he is lying. He mentioned Friday that he would like to come see me today at lunch and when I mentioned it today he forgot he had lunch plans with his wife....yeah it kinds made me jealous and upset. Thats why I am needing to vent.


It shouldnt bother me if we are trying to be "just friends" but he is all over the place with this.....one day he ends it...the next were friends, then he wants to be with me..thinking of moving out....then he knows we will never be together "like that""

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Registered: 10-10-2006
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 11:56am
I think he likes to play games with your head.
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Registered: 10-10-2006
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 12:00pm
Next time he mentions getting together for lunch don't even reply, it will drive him crazy. Or say that you'll be busy then.Don't let him see that he gets to you. Look how well that worked for you just lately when you didn't cry him a river.
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 12:44pm

yeah


i know he is only in for sex...and i figure if i am not giving it to him he will start going somewhere else.


I do love him and I understands when he says that we will probably never end up together....


I do not want to be selfish..i know he loves his wife

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 2:38pm

This guy have no respect for you and your feelings. He's playing you like a puppet on a string (pulling you every which way he wants). Why are you letting this person disrespect you like this? It is obvious he is just playing with your emotions. You need to look closely at yourself and understand why you let yourself love someone so unworthy. He loves his W and will not leave her for you, so that to me means you'll have NO gold at the end of the rainbow. Sounds like he just wants to use you for sex. That's degrading and soon you will have no self esteem left to your name.

If you're single find a nice single guy who will treat you better. Have some pride; love and respect for yourself, don't let anyone disrespect you like this.

You can do better....

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Tue, 09-23-2008 - 9:29am

If you truly want things to end, the

 

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Registered: 06-19-2008
Tue, 09-23-2008 - 12:13pm

He's doing it, because you allow it and because he's obviously in it for the games and sex. Are you sure you "love" him? What's to love? Many women confuse love with other neurotic needs.


You don't need this loser for a friend. There are 6 billion people on the planet, make new ones.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 09-23-2008 - 12:44pm

We are in contact thru work so I have to take daytime calls from him....In case it is about my job


I do undertstand that NC is better but there is no way around it.


I told him yesterday that we are to be "friends"