why does my AP seem so concerned.
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why does my AP seem so concerned.
| Sat, 01-24-2009 - 8:03am |
he seems so concerned about the amount of money i spend. when i bought my lap top he was a bit irritated at me, the money was a disbersment from my job after being fired. he wanted me to put it away. in a couple of weeks i wanted to treat him and, it would cost some money. now he wont let me, saying put the money away, neither of us really has the money to spend right now. he wants me to move out, and he feels i should save all extra money for the move. he's been pushing me to make the move. he feels i'm not happy and in a bad situation, make the move. he tells me he's worried about my financial situation and having money put away would make him feel better about my living arrangements. he's worried about my stability at home. if we were together as a couple, then it would be different. the way i choose to spend my money is my business. i told him i understand and appreciate his concern, i don't tell him how to spend his money. i don't even go there. he told me sees my future and sees me moving out. he was a bit irritated that i stopped looking for apt. i did because i lost my job. i told him so. what do you guys think. it seems he means well, again if we were a couple this wouldn't be an issue. i feel he's trying to control the financial aspect of my life. i'm probably making something out of nothing, it seems strange .thanks for all opinions.

He's likely frustrated because you aren't looking for an apartment because you "can't afford it" now, but you can "afford" the material things you want - like a costly computer.
It's a control issue for one thing. Surely you knew that there was more to this guy than all the hearts and flowers of your short, secret rendezvous. As far as you getting your own place, well, that would be jim dandy for him, wouldn't it. No more sex in the car and desktop, and he doen't have to pop for a hotel room either, right? And still gets to keep his comfy, cozy house and family.
By the way, why are you consulting him about YOUR personal decisions? If you want him to stop being so controlling, then stop treating him like God.
Tori,
Your AP is being manipulative and controlling.He knows you are emotionally attached to him and he is using that to his advantage.Open your eyes !
You had ended your A for good, hadnt you?Why all this interaction now?
Hi Tori,
I do not know the entire history of your A but have read the recent posts.