why does OM give me a double message?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2003
why does OM give me a double message?
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Mon, 10-20-2003 - 1:45pm
Does everyone who has OM have this problem? :

I am told how much he loves me, etc etc. But then, he suddenly avoid my calls and emails. When I finally do get a hold of him, he says "yes yes, I will email you...I just haven't had time"......I've even confronted him, asking: do you really want this or not? He beats around the bush.....

I need to know where I stand. If the sex was so good (like he claimed) and he says he loves me, why the cold treatment? On the other hand, if he has changed his mind, why doesn't he just say so?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Mon, 10-20-2003 - 1:53pm
With all EMA's come conflicting emotions on both sides. He wants it, but he doesn't want to want it. He may be dealing w/conflicting emotions right now. He may want to do the wrong thing and still wished he could want to do the right thing. I hope that's not too confusing.

I find myself distancing myself from MM when I have those emotions and he knows it. We've communicated that with each other. He does the same thing and I completely understand.

He probably has been really busy too. You have to consider that as an option. Sometimes we do get so busy, we forget everything around us including our extra curricular activities.

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