why is my affair so different?
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why is my affair so different?
| Tue, 04-13-2004 - 3:11am |
why does my affair seem so different than most of yours ? I am not married anymore for one. His wife is leaving soon for another. And alot of people know about it. I don't expect him to live with me after his wife leaves but told him he could. I just want to be with him more often and be able to do things out in public together. I don't want him to get with anyone else when he is free. I don't believe that commitment has anything to do with marrige papers. I don't think I will ever get married again. It never stopped infidelity in my marrige. I know he is my best friend . I want to be there for him, to share his pain and happiness through the rest of his life . Most of your affairs seem like they are based on sex. Am I wrong? He always said he was just waiting for his wife to make the choice to leave. He said that the lawyer told him that this would be better for him in the eyes of the court concerning his children. And how things get split. Mine is an exit affair. Do you think a married man knowing his marrige is over picks a single woman to fill his needs ? Anyone out there single with this kind of affair?

Now I'm not sure if you've read my posts or not, but you've been around awhile so I think you probably have. If so, you know that I am leaving my M. I am not leaving because of IS, but she certainly opened my eyes to the possibility for a loving, committed R. I didn't "pick" her because she was single. In fact, I never intended to fall in love with her. She and I just started out talking as friends and then realized just how compatible we are and the love developed over time. I am not waiting for my W to make a decision to leave because she never would. In no way is my former A an exit A.
Anyway, I am not single yet, but IS is. She too loves me and wants to spend her life with me. The main difference is I do hope to marry IS one day. I agree that commitment has nothing to do with papers, but I think M can be a beautiful thing and I hope to build one with the right foundation this time. I wish you luck with your evolving R. I hope you have the lifetime commitment you are looking for. It sounds like you truly love him in the right way. I hope my reply didn't offend you because I totally respect that you and he are planning to be together. Clearly, he and I have something in common in that way.
NRY
Edited 4/24/2004 4:31 pm ET ET by julietsfate