Why is This so Hard?

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Why is This so Hard?
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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 12:40am

So after him ignoring my texts Friday night, I essentially go NC with him all weekend (he was home this weekend).

anotherseyes

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 9:02am
Do you ever notice that 95% of the time you're the one who sends the "last" e-mail/text in your little exchanges? I would try to stop myself at a point where he has sent the last one (even if he had a question - it can be answered later). You don't have to give up your morning and evening exchanges, but try to stop before he does, at least 50% of the time! Some might see that as playing a "game", but it's not, it's really just establishing that you have a life and you get busy too. :-) And it IS hard!

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 1:24pm

I'm trying!

anotherseyes

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 1:41pm
Then dont play games.Honestly,if you want him,let him know it.Its very easy to fall into games but it slowly kills the warmth that the R holds,if you KWIM? He will eventually get that you are playing and will respond in the same way.Its a never ending cycle and will hurt more than it does now.
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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 3:48pm

But how can I limit my contact with him/make myself less available to him?

anotherseyes

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 7:30pm

I so relate to this post. I think I get totally obsessed over my affair and its affecting many parts of my life. Bottom line, its not a healthy relationship and can really get your "head" messed up. I think maybe we all need big time counseling. It's actually painful sometimes to be in affair, because you are living for "hopes"....when in fact you should be living each day as is, fully, happily, having your needs met by a loving healthy partner that is invested in you.

Talking to myself too...and trying not to contact him today...it is freakin hard.

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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 9:00am

"Isn't it a "game", so to speak, if I all of a sudden start playing hard to get?"

You already are in the game.Whosoever started it , him or you,it really doesnt matter.The point is its begun and unfortunately it will end bad.

True, by having an A we are not being fair to other people but it pays well to be atleast fair to each other.If that is not possible or you cant,then whats the point of it all?

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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 1:45am

I was pondering this same thought a lot this week.

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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 11:47am
I've been keeping myself a bit busier lately, too.

anotherseyes

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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 7:15pm
Hey I love that. Not to play hard to get, but to BE hard to get. It is good to keep your life full and busy. Good thoughts janejosie. :-)

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