Wife is calling me

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-09-2008
Wife is calling me
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 12:58am

GREAT! The wife is calling me, AGAIN!


The first happened in January - he straightened it out (and also got her pregnant!).

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2003
Fri, 10-16-2009 - 1:45am

Hi lost,

I feel for you. Don't let anyone tear you down...we will come through this eventually, and we WILL know we are worthy of SO MUCH BETTER.

benska

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2009
Fri, 10-16-2009 - 5:31am

This is what could happen when you have an affair. Why do you need to replace a man with another??????? SEEK THERAPY! Why would you have anxiety dumping a jackass???????? I thought he was lying to you about

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2007
Fri, 10-16-2009 - 8:43am
Sounds like the wife?????
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2009
Fri, 10-16-2009 - 5:37pm
nope...I was in an affair a few years ago. I know about discovery
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-09-2008
Fri, 10-16-2009 - 7:44pm

You do sound like a wife, or someone very bitter.


There is nothing wrong with me, but then again I am sure everyone can benefit from therapy.


I am not going to debate "whose at fault".

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 10-16-2009 - 9:30pm


Hi Lost,

I truly do believe no matter what other opinions are that the spouse of someone who was or is in an affair should not call the other person. Their problem is with their spouse, it's only transferring the hurt and pain they feel about their spouse onto the other person. I had an opportunity to talk with my ex-husbands affair partner from during our marriage after he died. I called to let her know what happened because I felt she had a right to know, at first it was ok. We were able to share memories, but then the past came up and it wasn't so ok. We both knew not to contact each other again. To many painful memories for each of us. In my current relationship there has been cheating on his side and at first I wanted to contact the other woman to find a reason as to why. It took some time but I know that was wrong, she isn't my problem and really doesn't contribute to my relationship problems. There is just no sense to look at her as the problem and take my anger out on her. So I don't think your ex affair partners wife should be calling you. Her problem is in her own home. She's gotta solve it there :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2007
Sat, 10-17-2009 - 1:44am

She is his wife... not you. She has every right to question him (esp because she is pregnant).

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2009
Sat, 10-17-2009 - 4:02am

Am I a wife?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Sat, 10-17-2009 - 9:26am

Dear Lost...why would you want to be involved with a "sociopath" who has no compassion or feelings?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2009
Sat, 10-17-2009 - 10:43am

Yes Lost, why dont you get a hobby?
Maybe like joining an anonymous site where people ask for advice, then make get on that high horse of yours because youve BTDT, and then proceed to bestow your wisdom onto others using abrupt and pointed sentences. Sounds like a plan to me...

SB

edited to add: I dont post much these days as the comments that are given on this board by some poeple are judgemental and unwarranted. If you are in an A then here on MAS should be like a sanctuary where you can spill your thoughts and not be crucified. If this board annoys people that have ended As so much, then maybe they should skip it and go to EAS instead.

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.




Edited 10/17/2009 10:52 am ET by sometimesblue
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.

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