wife wants contact with OW

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Registered: 03-11-2009
wife wants contact with OW
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Wed, 03-11-2009 - 2:47am
Hi, I'm new here and am amazed to have found this board. Have a question for

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Registered: 03-28-2008
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 10:49am
Tyg, did it offend you that he stated the affair was nothing more, that it even made his marriage stronger? Why haven't you taken such advice given to you about your affair, oh you are not in an affair. This is true some affairs can make a marriage much stronger.
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Registered: 03-11-2009
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 11:41am

I must say that my eyebrows are raised a little about the simmering heat in some of your replies. Isn't the nature of an affair that at least one AP is already attached to someone else? Why should my posts alarm anyone?

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Registered: 01-24-2009
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 12:18pm

My first reaction, having been on both sides of this coin, is that the first place you run is back to the "familiar" . . . . to the most comfortable place.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 12:22pm
no it didn't offend me at all..my xap is still in my life..i ended it..he is still emotionally connected to me...that's not the issue..i'm just looking at it from a different perspective..i'm not sure what the declaration of his love for his wife was about..especially on this board...get me...i just don't think it's a good idea for the wife to contact the ow...bad idea..doesn't seem like he's gonna stop it..and it also seems like he has something to prove...no not to OW..but to wife he absolutely does...

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 12:23pm

Wild, for those of us who have been the OW, married or not, you obviously hit a nerve...please don't be offended.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 12:32pm
lovemenow2008 i had an emotional affair...not a pa....just to be clear...and the emotion is still there..my xap..declared and still declares his love and inloveness for me...so i'm not coming from a pa angle at all...although our relationship became physical....i'm just looking outside

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 12:51pm

If you have any feelings, respect, etc. for your xAP don't do it.

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Registered: 07-23-2004
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 4:26pm
Didn't you expect because of the nature of this board that for the most part the answers you got would be biased? It is your W who you owe your loyalty to and who should have her needs met. Therefore tell her what she needs to know or do to get through an extremely trying time for her. JMHO!
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Registered: 03-11-2009
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 10:58pm

I must say, I'm kind of

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Registered: 01-24-2009
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 11:43pm

Hmmm . . . . .

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