I TOTALLY AGREE! I can smell poo all the way here too....
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
wild....i'm jumping in because my situation is so much like yours that i'm wondering if my husband wrote it! just want to confirm that yes, the spark is certainly back in my marriage so i can believe that it is back in yours. it takes a lot of work and would possibly never have happened if i'd not found out about his affair. it was already stating to change for the better because he was making the effort with me. he had been so distant that i actually thought he might be getting early dementia, both his parents suffered from it before they passed. when he finally confessed everything to me the lights went back on in his eyes and we immediately, within hours, started feeling all that passion that had been blocked for some time between us. we were both at fault for that blockage which is really only being unable to communicate....as any decades long marriage has, ups and downs, but the friendship of knowing each other so well, all those years of living together, many bonds of affection which never left us even when he was seeing his "other woman" (which was sporadic at best, they probably only spent about 24 hours together
oh puhleeze...usually when someone has to give such a detailed proclaimation or declaration, there's crap behind it...maybe he posted to the board so his wife could see it and then it's his way of trying to make her feel better
Is there anything in my post that you want to believe? Would it make you happier if I said something like, "Even though I can't stand the sight of my W and we have the worst sex imaginable and she is a royal B and I really have never loved her BUT I'm staying with her just because we are married, I really long to be with the OW and we are still seeing each other because once an OW, always an OW"? For your own emotional health please believe what you want.
For those of you who are a little more open minded about the compexities of marriage and the mistakes I made by betraying my wife, know that I've been through hell and back
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Wild,
Hi.
My, my.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
I was in an A
wild....i'm jumping in because my situation is so much like yours that i'm wondering if my husband wrote it! just want to confirm that yes, the spark is certainly back in my marriage so i can believe that it is back in yours. it takes a lot of work and would possibly never have happened if i'd not found out about his affair. it was already stating to change for the better because he was making the effort with me. he had been so distant that i actually thought he might be getting early dementia, both his parents suffered from it before they passed. when he finally confessed everything to me the lights went back on in his eyes and we immediately, within hours, started feeling all that passion that had been blocked for some time between us. we were both at fault for that blockage which is really only being unable to communicate....as any decades long marriage has, ups and downs, but the friendship of knowing each other so well, all those years of living together, many bonds of affection which never left us even when he was seeing his "other woman" (which was sporadic at best, they probably only spent about 24 hours together
WilinSeattle,
I believe you should explain to your wife that No Contact has been established and that it is best for both of your recoverys that it remain.
oh puhleeze...usually when someone has to give such a detailed proclaimation or declaration, there's crap behind it...maybe he posted to the board so his wife could see it and then it's his way of trying to make her feel better
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Is there anything in my post that you want to believe? Would it make you happier if I said something like, "Even though I can't stand the sight of my W and we have the worst sex imaginable and she is a royal B and I really have never loved her BUT I'm staying with her just because we are married, I really long to be with the OW and we are still seeing each other because once an OW, always an OW"? For your own emotional health please believe what you want.
For those of you who are a little more open minded about the compexities of marriage and the mistakes I made by betraying my wife, know that I've been through hell and back
Wild,
Dude, I've been with my H for 30 years.
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