This wil be a long two weeks...

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This wil be a long two weeks...
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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 6:34am

So he flew OS on my birthday on Tues. Its sort of half work- half fun and he's alone. He will be gone 2 weeks and called me from the airport. He had already said that contact may be hard as his schedule is hectic and his new phone isnt hooked up to global (he'll be calling family reverse charges).


Soo... 3 days in and Im already getting annoyed that he hasnt contacted me! Oh Im so annoyed by myself! Why cant I just chill and say 'I have a nice friend who I have fun with'. My normal friends dont have to contact me while they are OS!


Ugh! How do I get balance in this thing..

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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 7:38am

Face it, he's not just a "normal" friend. You have a right to feel "differently" about him than them. Don't be so hard on yourself LOL.

Keep yourself occupied! We'll try to keep you occupied here.

Anyone have any good jokes to keep iggy occupied? LOL...

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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 8:49am

You are too sweet Lexi :)


But would you expect him to move heaven and earth to contact you? Or are you in the place where Id like to be where no contact for a short time is actually ok! Particularly while he is legitimately preoccupied and having IT issues. I dont want to (and have never been) the needy whiney girl. Why do As do that to you?

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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 8:59am
I think it gets better with time IGS. My OM doesn't expect contact when I'm away, so if I find a computer in a hotel lobby and have a little time alone there, it's a sweet surprise for him. If that doesn't happen, he's OK with it. In the earlier days, when I had a better phone, I would text or e-mail him - sometimes with pictures of the scenery. I now have a cheap phone (no camera) with a difficult texting program so that doesn't happen anymore. But I think in the earlier days he needed more of an effort from me that I wasn't forgetting about him. After all this time he knows I'm not going anywhere, and I WILL be back (said in my best Arnold voice LOL).

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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 9:09am

Hasta La Vista Baby:)


But you are right- its about trust isnt it? Hard to trust a relationship that is built on stolen moments. Live and learn I guess. And I'll be sticking to you like glue Lexi :)

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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 9:37am

You know I feel your pain! Ap was gone most of the month of June and Then I went away for a week. Hang in there! Glad I did! He and I have had a really fun week this week since I got back. I think he actually missed me! We have talked and sexted everyday, lunch and some IC. More than I've seen him in a month LOL!

Stay busy, take care of yourself and catch up on doing things that you always put off because you're waiting for that phone call and keeping your schedule flexible. Don't know if you do that but I sure do. Sometimes, after our Friday sign-off call I'm actually kind of relieved that I won't hear from him for two days and I can set him on the back burner. He just called to say bye for the weekend...he's going on a guys weekend..Now I can focus on having a fun weekend here!

HAng in there-glad I'm not the only freak of the bunch LOL!

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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 4:08pm

Two weeks?

anotherseyes

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Sun, 07-18-2010 - 4:31am

i have to ask, are all of you married and seeing a married man as well? u sound so confident and positive re: the NC during vacation,e tc.... i am not there by any means yet. and actually just cancelled my email account for my AP to use exclusively b/c i am so mad that our time is few and far between -what with his community involvement, professional status, and 3 children. he is an excellent speciman of opportunity. one day i'm sure he will run for mayor of our town, but goodness, i often think to myself: don't i deserve better, and what the hell am i pining and waiting around for? and then i hate myself, and the situation i put myself in, and then i wind up getting really angry with him. he is a doll of a man. so talented, so freaking handsome, and i just feel so impatient with it all.


and then i see pics of him and his wife on facebook, online for community events, he has to hang up on me b/c she is on him like glue.... it's so wierd. we r amazingly hot, when together, but i feel so destroyed during long absences like this neverending summer vacation!!!!


what do you all do? how do u get past those feelilngs?


thanks for the help, i do appreciate it.

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Sun, 07-18-2010 - 1:02pm

I'm married, and so is AP.

anotherseyes

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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 6:08am

Well its a week tomorrow and still no text :(


I mean I know he's travelling but surely he could have sent one!

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 7:31am

Half-way there, IGS!! Come on, girl, you CAN do it!

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