I think he's hurt because you are not giving him the attention you once did. I think he had the other co-worker email you to get a reaction out of you. It upset you which is what he wanted but don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that it did. I think once we have an affair & cross that line that things will NEVER be the way that they use to be. Too many feelings, resentment & egos involved and he's trying to cope with it the only way he knows how.
I know it must be difficult because you work together but if you continue being silent then he'll get the hint and leave you alone. I read this somewhere once and think of my AP when I do =(.
No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow~Alice Walker
first, i thought i was the crazy girl 4 sure ;) it sounds llike you really hurt his feelings when u told him to forget about u, and he's probably heartbroken. he's afraid to talk to u, look at u for fear of the re-action. u told him to never contact u again, etc... right? so he had someone else send u an email request for work, or whatever. he was honoring your request. time will heal all this stuff. it always takes time. in the meantime, u can either really mean what u said, and move forward, or be nicey nicey, tell him u were angry and crazy and make-up.
Thank you all for your thoughts; I am at the point where I feel so numb, indifferent, and just …I don’t even know really. I just know I don’t want the affair back but I miss him, I am hurt thinking he feels no remorse at all for how he’s done me.
Wish I had some advice for you, but haven't been there yet.
anotherseyes
I agree with Jane's post. And anger comes straight from fear...
Hi crazy,
I think he's hurt because you are not giving him the attention you once did. I think he had the other co-worker email you to get a reaction out of you. It upset you which is what he wanted but don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that it did. I think once we have an affair & cross that line that things will NEVER be the way that they use to be. Too many feelings, resentment & egos involved and he's trying to cope with it the only way he knows how.
I know it must be difficult because you work together but if you continue being silent then he'll get the hint and leave you alone. I read this somewhere once and think of my AP when I do =(.
No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow~Alice Walker
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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Hi crazy,
My take is a little different... but if it were my AP, once my emotions were pretty well under control, I'd ask him if we could talk.
Hello justlivin –
first, i thought i was the crazy girl 4 sure ;) it sounds llike you really hurt his feelings when u told him to forget about u, and he's probably heartbroken. he's afraid to talk to u, look at u for fear of the re-action. u told him to never contact u again, etc... right? so he had someone else send u an email request for work, or whatever. he was honoring your request. time will heal all this stuff. it always takes time. in the meantime, u can either really mean what u said, and move forward, or be nicey nicey, tell him u were angry and crazy and make-up.
remember, tho, who ever touches us, teaches us.
good luck!
he literally had his hand on his face, his arm covering/hiding his face, slouched down looking at his computer
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Thank you all for your thoughts; I am at the point where I feel so numb, indifferent, and just …I don’t even know really. I just know I don’t want the affair back but I miss him, I am hurt thinking he feels no remorse at all for how he’s done me.