Will we always "hate" each other?

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Registered: 05-26-2010
Will we always "hate" each other?
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 5:13pm

Hello All –


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Registered: 05-03-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 8:29pm

Wish I had some advice for you, but haven't been there yet.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 10:49pm
I think it is sort of inevitable.
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Registered: 04-27-2010
Tue, 07-27-2010 - 10:57pm

I agree with Jane's post. And anger comes straight from fear...

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 11:29am

Hi crazy,


I think he's hurt because you are not giving him the attention you once did. I think he had the other co-worker email you to get a reaction out of you. It upset you which is what he wanted but don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that it did. I think once we have an affair & cross that line that things will NEVER be the way that they use to be. Too many feelings, resentment & egos involved and he's trying to cope with it the only way he knows how.


I know it must be difficult because you work together but if you continue being silent then he'll get the hint and leave you alone. I read this somewhere once and think of my AP when I do =(.







No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow~Alice Walker

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 07-24-2009
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 1:12pm

Hi crazy,


My take is a little different... but if it were my AP, once my emotions were pretty well under control, I'd ask him if we could talk.

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 1:40pm

Hello justlivin –


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Registered: 02-06-2010
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 2:58am

first, i thought i was the crazy girl 4 sure ;) it sounds llike you really hurt his feelings when u told him to forget about u, and he's probably heartbroken. he's afraid to talk to u, look at u for fear of the re-action. u told him to never contact u again, etc... right? so he had someone else send u an email request for work, or whatever. he was honoring your request. time will heal all this stuff. it always takes time. in the meantime, u can either really mean what u said, and move forward, or be nicey nicey, tell him u were angry and crazy and make-up.


remember, tho, who ever touches us, teaches us.


good luck!

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:21pm

he literally had his hand on his face, his arm covering/hiding his face, slouched down looking at his computer


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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 4:49pm

Thank you all for your thoughts; I am at the point where I feel so numb, indifferent, and just …I don’t even know really. I just know I don’t want the affair back but I miss him, I am hurt thinking he feels no remorse at all for how he’s done me.