Will you discuss As with your children?
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Will you discuss As with your children?
| Sun, 02-01-2004 - 4:09pm |
I don't mean your personal affair or having been betrayed by a spouse, but will you discuss affairs in general with your children when talking about sex, relationships, love, marriage, etc.?

What I've always said is that affairs are *symptoms* of a troubled marriage and rarely the cause of the problems. I've said that sometimes, people stay married out of a sense of duty. I've said that sometimes love is badly timed.
Now I'm glad I've laid that foundation, in case SO and I take this to the next level ever and the older kids put two and two together and realize we've been together since before the divorce.
Lucky
jen
My 16 year old daughter and I have discussed A's in general due to the fact that my sister was involved in one at the time. My D feels that MW involved in A's are skanky.. if only she knew that she was grouping her mom in that category. I have tried to get her to look at the possibility that there are factors involved that she does may not be aware of.
SB
Seeburg
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
I don't think I will discuss affairs as a subject with my children... but I want them both to know... both son and daughter... that they will be able to come and talk to me about anything... and I mean anything! and that I will be non judgemental and that I will be there for them... through everything... no matter what it is.
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
I will discuss A's with my children - because I don't want them to go into a marriage and not realize the possibility, to know that it takes constant care and maintenance from both sides to nurture a changing marriage...and that people change and not necessarily in the same manner. I want them to see the whole picture, and not just the nicely painted picture of "first come loves, then comes marriage", etc.
As I've thought about it over the weekend, it's amazing how the opportunity has presented itself, alot! I'll wait yet, because it's too soon since stbxH and I have seperated (lol, and since he is with OW, I don't want to cause an effect in the childrens' relationship with stbxH or his GF).
I don't know if I would feel differently had I not been a BS, or in an A myself - I don't think I would have realised how prevalant A's are. I wonder how statistics would change if people were open to discussing it more; take for example teen pregnancy - in the not-so-distant past if a young girl became pregnant it was hush-hush, but now that society talks about it (and more actively deals with it), the statistics are down.
Thanks for your replies, girls, and for allowing me to think aloud. Have a great week!
Meow