Wishy-washy
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Wishy-washy
| Mon, 08-02-2010 - 11:09am |
MM and I got lunch on Fri. It was very nice and fun. Before we parted I asked him what he wanted from me-friendship or something more. In mid June I had told him how I felt about him and he said he felt the same way, but wasn't sure if or how he could have an A. So we continued to spend time together talking daily, a lunch or breakfast here and there. I felt as though we were becoming closer, but wasn't clear on where it was going. We have become better friends for sure and I enjoy that very much, but want more. I told him that again. He told me he wants to be friends for now because he has too much going on in his life. Talk about leaving the door open! He told me that he has almost walked out on his W several times in the past few weeks, but told me it wasn't because of me-I never thought it would be and was surprised he made the comment-not sure what it meant really. I told him I appreciated his honesty and although I was disappointed I would just have to resort to fantasizing about him then :). We spoke later in the afternoon again and he told me he was struggling with things-he had an angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other. I told him I didn't just want a one night stand that it was him I was interested in, not just the physical stuff. So he asked me if I didn't want to get naked with him and I said yes, but not just one time. Then he asked me how we would do this A and I told him what I thought we could do and he said okay. Before we finished talking, I asked him, "so this isn't done between us yet is it?" and he said, "no it isn't." So basically I am no better off after having this talk than before the talk. He is struggling with all of this and I know what I want. Not sure what to do at this point as I can't force him to move forward. I guess I just need to be his friend and if he comes around, he comes around. Ugh-frustrating!

this is a very troublesome stage in his life.. and he's doing his best to do the right thing with you.. yet, for both of you, i think it's best to keep the friendship going and nothing further for now.. you may get him to where you wish him to be, but then, you may lose him after that.. he needs to make that choice with a clear head, and he's furthest from a clear head as he can be now.. if he's worth that much to you as more than a friend, you'd want to wait for a better time to take things further, i think..
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I agree with Nevereasy and think he's going through some conflicts in his life right now and like the fact that he's being honest with you about them. He's not just trying to jump into bed with you and leave it at that. He's letting you know that he's going through some issues and isn't sure what he wants to do for himself right now. Its better this way then to get involved, have your emotions come into play and then he backs away and destroys your friendship.
When he's ready he'll let you know but until then keep your options open and enjoy the time you do have with him.
Wishing you all the best!
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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why are you thinking that much about your ap while he doesn't seem to be sure about you ? Is he the only MM that you can have an affair with ?
Best of luck
Jersey, it's gonna happen. It may be slow going, but the signs are all there.