Wondering

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Registered: 09-07-2008
Wondering
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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 4:57pm
Ok..just need some advice here. Been involved in an EA for almost 2 months now. OM and I are planning meeting next weekend for a weekend together which will go to PA. Very excited about seeing each other and spending time together. We have talked everyday since all this started. We haven't missed a day in which we haven't txt, chatted, or talked on the phone for 2 months. I usually call him in the mornings on my way to work to wake him up. Yesterday was normally other then we just didn't talk as much as we normally do. However when I called this morning for my normal call...no answer. I thought ok...didn't think anything about it. Sent a txt that said missed my call this morning. Still didn't hear anything. Later on sent another that asked how he was...and nothing. So by now I am a little worried because this is not like him. Sent another that said ok just wanted to make sure you are ok...haven't heard from you today...still nothing. So I tried to call on my way home from work this afternoon and got voicemail. Not sure what to think of this. Not sure if I did something wrong or what. There was a time about a month ago where I thought he was mad at me for something and turned out he wasn't. So...should I just wait for him...not sure what to think of this right now. Its just not normal for us not to talk at least once already during the day. Just wondering if maybe I said something or did something wrong....not sure.....wondering if I should keep trying...
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Registered: 05-17-2003
In reply to: algirl2008
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 5:28pm

Hi algirl2008,

I just had to reply to you....because I have been there and done that!

You have done what you could...voiced your concerns and now it's time to let him contact you. You don't say if he's M or not but that would be the first thing I would consider...he's trying to lay low because perhaps the W has been suspicious or around him too much for him to reply safely.

I am the queen of calling, messaging, etc...way too much and I have/am slowly learning (over 1 1/2 years) to just chill. Easier said than done I know and believe me, I have backslid pretty badly over all this time...and very recently too.

I know it will be hard for you but just wait him out if you possibly can...if it starts getting too close to the time that you plan on being together then try and contact him again (although if it's been that long I would seriously consider telling him where to go).

JMHO - good luck

benska

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Registered: 09-07-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 6:03pm
He is not married..he is single. Has been for several years. We have been friends for a while now about 10 years. The EA started a 2 months ago when we recently came in contact with each other again.
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Registered: 09-07-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 6:17pm
I am not sure...we had our normal morning chat yesterday morning...and texted for a few minutes last night but that was it...cause we were both so tired last night...went to bed early. Then all this NC has started today...not answering phone getting voice mail, no texts, nothing...all day. I tried one last time to call a few minutes ago...that is it...I am not chasing him around....I am waiting for him....I am sure he will text when he gets home tonight has always text to tell me when he gets home but who knows with today might not get anything.
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Registered: 11-02-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 8:13pm
Do you normally email with him or anything while he is at work? Or do you just use his cell phone? I mean, it's kinda far-fetched, but maybe he dropped his phone in water or something and he has the battery out. Your best bet I'm sure is to just back off and see if he calls you tonight, hopefully it's just something very simple and everything is fine. Best of luck to you! I know how unnerving that can be.
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Registered: 09-07-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 8:08am
No don't normally email at work...all cell phones...but I did find out what was going on last night. His phone battery died. That is why he didn't answer yesterday morning. Not sure why no contact during the day but everything is fine. We talked about about 5 min last night when I had a chance. I told him I was worried about him all day. He said no don't worry i am fine. So everything is still on the go...However still a little distant. I went to a movie last night and text when we got done to see what he was up to. Told me he was with some friends. I told him to have fun and we would talk later and he said ok. So we have always text goodnight to each other for about a month now. So when I got ready for bed I did my normal goodnight....kiss kiss text...and got nothing and still nothing this morning. So...I know everything is ok but I am just going to lay it low today. He is the type to likes to sleep till 12 or 1 on the weekends. I usually end up waking him up on saturday afternoons. But today I am just going to sit it out and see what happens.