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| Fri, 11-07-2008 - 4:57pm |
Ok..just need some advice here. Been involved in an EA for almost 2 months now. OM and I are planning meeting next weekend for a weekend together which will go to PA. Very excited about seeing each other and spending time together. We have talked everyday since all this started. We haven't missed a day in which we haven't txt, chatted, or talked on the phone for 2 months. I usually call him in the mornings on my way to work to wake him up. Yesterday was normally other then we just didn't talk as much as we normally do. However when I called this morning for my normal call...no answer. I thought ok...didn't think anything about it. Sent a txt that said missed my call this morning. Still didn't hear anything. Later on sent another that asked how he was...and nothing. So by now I am a little worried because this is not like him. Sent another that said ok just wanted to make sure you are ok...haven't heard from you today...still nothing. So I tried to call on my way home from work this afternoon and got voicemail. Not sure what to think of this. Not sure if I did something wrong or what. There was a time about a month ago where I thought he was mad at me for something and turned out he wasn't. So...should I just wait for him...not sure what to think of this right now. Its just not normal for us not to talk at least once already during the day. Just wondering if maybe I said something or did something wrong....not sure.....wondering if I should keep trying...

Hi algirl2008,
I just had to reply to you....because I have been there and done that!
You have done what you could...voiced your concerns and now it's time to let him contact you. You don't say if he's M or not but that would be the first thing I would consider...he's trying to lay low because perhaps the W has been suspicious or around him too much for him to reply safely.
I am the queen of calling, messaging, etc...way too much and I have/am slowly learning (over 1 1/2 years) to just chill. Easier said than done I know and believe me, I have backslid pretty badly over all this time...and very recently too.
I know it will be hard for you but just wait him out if you possibly can...if it starts getting too close to the time that you plan on being together then try and contact him again (although if it's been that long I would seriously consider telling him where to go).
JMHO - good luck
benska