Wondering if there really is something
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Wondering if there really is something
| Fri, 10-31-2008 - 2:23pm |
I've been lurking on this board for a few months trying to find answers. I've never posted so I"ll start from the beginning. I've been with my dh 12 years, married for 5. 9 yrs ago I met one of his co-workers. I was instantly attracted, and I think he was too. Ever since then he is always flirting and saying things to me. My husband has always heard this and says he has to be careful or I'm going to end up falling for this other guy. he says it joking, but knows there's something on both ends. Over the years me and the OM have become pretty close. IN the last 3 months, feelings seem to be intensifying. One night when he was here drinking, my dh went to bed and we ended up staying up all night playing playstation. We sat right next to each other and were touching each other probably 3/4 of the night. othing happened, and nothing out of the way was really said. We went on facebook and he looked up some of his ex's and spent the night talking and joking around. The next morning when he was leaving he told me he was going to be in trouble since he was bad the night before. I never said anything, as he was leaving he told me he had a good time and would see me later. He works shift work, one week on, one off. Since then he has been out to our house every time he was off except for when he was on holidays. Even then he stopped for 5 min on his way to work. I've always thought he liked me from the things he said, but he always joked around so I had no idea if he meant it or not. Since the first night, we've stayed up together 2 other times. Nothing has ever happened but there is constant touching or teasing. We went to the movie the other night, the 3 of us, me and OM joked around most of the movie and ended up having no idea what went on. A few times his foot touched mine but he moved away quickly except for once. Arms touched almost the whole time and I caught him looking at me a few times. This morning I drove to town (25km away), I"m usually at home but had a day off. While I was at the drive thru he phoned me to see if I wanted a coffee since he was going to be going past my house. He's been out when it was just me a few times and the time flys. I was disappointed since I could have missed another visit. I think he was disappointed to since I was already there. We talked for another minute or so then he got another call and had to go. He's started emailing jokes and has had a couple reasons to phone me when my dh isn't home. He's joked around with me before about how things would be if I was his wife. I really think things are progressing but I don't want to come off as falling all over him. He's 9 yrs older than me and asked me once if I thought he was old. Joking around I said yes, but I think there was a lot more to the question. Last weekend the 3 of us spent the weekend together hunting. I returned his joking and made it clear to him that I liked him. Is it just me, or is there feelings on his side too?
