WOOHOOO - The Party

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WOOHOOO - The Party
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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 9:59am

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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 2:24pm
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Edited 3/10/2004 3:55 pm ET ET by geek_chic
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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 2:32pm

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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 2:34pm
now, now, gc, everybody's entitled to their own follies!! no judging please. some of us need a little help now and then. a skin treatment here, hair dye there -- it's not wrong unless someone's making you do it!!

gurl

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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 3:01pm
For some people, fixing themselves up on the outside makes them feel better on the inside. I certainly can't see how there would be anything wrong with that. I've been down that road of not caring how I looked back before I lost all my weight and I certainly don't see myself as any better a person back then. When I was 200 pounds and not buying new clothes unless absolutely necessary, was I a bigger person inside? Heck no. I was insecure and miserable and everywhere I went people looked right through me because I was invisible. Now that I'm thin with fashionable clothes and blond hair, I carry myself as though I AM somebody, and not an invisible somebody. I don't spend my life holed up inside my body, living vicariously through the heroines in romance novels and soap operas. I go out and LIVE life. Okay, so maybe I'm working on totally screwing UP my life, but at least I'm an active participant in it and not going through it sitting on a sofa like a big baked potato. And no, this isn't directed at anyone in particular because I certainly don't know anyone's lifestyle; I'm just speaking as someone who's been on both sides of the fence and knows all too well the grass isn't much greener on either side of it!
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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 3:15pm
So, lilah you were overweight all your life and them you lost all of it last year? How wonderful for you -- it is really liberating to loose a lot of weight after all that time. Enjoy what you have and remember don't worry about how any man think you are -fat/thin. You have to like yourself - and being thin or fat doesn't matter at all. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 3:49pm
Please don't take this as me starting a flame war (because I like all of you very much). I just have a strong opinion (me?! never!), so if you don't want to hear it, please skip this post.

Too right, julietsfate. That's why I said "LOL" and gave a wink.

Everything you said is right on... I was merely pointing out that we should also invest as much energy into developing something that will stand us in good stead when we're beyond the help of fashionable clothing and botox. I'm merely suggesting that if you spend 20 minutes painting your nails, you should spend an equal amount of time reading a book, learning a new skill, advocating for your favorite cause, etc.!

Hey, I like perfume, and I'm just as much a shoe freak as the rest of you, but instead of flats or knock-me-over-and-f#*%-me pumps, I drool over funky workboots and retro tennies! Sorry, but my foot does not come to a point, and if I was supposed to walk with my butt canted out and my back swayed and my calves overflexed I would have been born with really tall heels. The point is, I am not self-confident dressed in dresses and girly shoes, so I am far sexier in a pair of Chuck Taylors than Manolo Blahniks. And they're a lot cheaper, so I can have more of them! :-D

If you like dying your hair and wearing skirts and makeup and jewelry, more power to ya. I just resent the way mass media and therefore, most people, seem to imply that's the only sexy out there. But of course, you can't *sell* all that crap to people if you don't make them believe that they're ugly and they stink!

Sorry, I'll get down off my anti-consumerist soapbox now (I *am* a rabid market libertarian and not a hippie communist, I swear it!) so y'all can enjoy your Christmas shopping.

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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 4:03pm
Well, I wasn't really overweight ALL my life. In my adolescence and early 20s I was within a decent weight. It was after marriage that I got to be really overweight, then obese. It wasn't so much my weight but my lack of pizzazz... I was always the cute, girl-next-door type who lived in the shadow of the flashier women. I never was the type who made heads turn...until now. I think it's just in having gained weight then losing it again that I gained an appreciation for myself that someone who hasn't bottomed out wouldn't have. I take full advantage of it, making myself the best "me" I can be. MM called me vain a couple of weeks ago but you know what the funny thing is? I was asking someone what she thought of him about a week later and she said, "I used to like him, but lately he's gotten so VAIN." I'm not sure if it's vanity as much as it's just that we care how we look. We're TRYING to look good. If I tell MM he looks good in a certain color, the next day he shows up wearing another shirt in that color. A while back he showed up every single day for a week and a half wearing a color I'd told him looks good. He walks with pride, he takes extra time in the morning to make sure his hair is just right. There's something kinda exciting about knowing that I have that power over him. That he thinks about ME when he's dressing in the morning, even when he's trying to fight his feelings for me. I'm the same way. We have someone to look good for again, for the first time since before marriage. When you're M with no one to impress you tend to let yourself go, but once you find someone who is interested in you, you want to look good for him. It's just part of falling in love; it's human nature. For that same reason, alarms went off last summer when I suddenly took an interest in looking good. People were thinking I must be up to something if I cared how I looked. I just argued, "Why can't I be doing it for myself?" Of course, that whole line of debate was kinda silly when you consider I WASN'T doing it for myself. In a way I was, but mostly I was just excited about having a reason to want to dress up and look nice. For me, that's almost as exciting as the affair.
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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 4:09pm
girl, you've got me laughing my butt off over here!! you keep right on being strong-willed and opinionated AND a libertarian too! i love you the way you are, teenies and all!

gurl

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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 4:19pm
"Teenies"? Erm, ok, forgive my lewd mind its wanderings. I actually like the mental image there, like my "small clothes" or something. How-EV-errr, not since I was about 13 has there been nor will there *ever be* anything "teeny" about me even once I reach my goal weight... There's just too much of me to be contained in a small package!

Oh, don't confuse my disclaimer with saying that I would quit being those things for your sakes! ;-)

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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 4:21pm
By the by, I'm happy that your party turned out to be a "rousing" success...

I never for a moment doubted that a gurlfriend as bodacious as you would have an awesome party!