The best thing about my EMA is that we are both married and from the very beginning, we were 100% clear that it was going to always be an A. Nobody was ever going to leave their spouse. I think the only A's that are happy are the ones in which both people delight in the unique type of relationship that it is — fun, private, carefree.I always tell my OMM that I LOVE being his mistress, and that I'd HATE being his second wife. He's like my private oasis. I think he feels the same way about me. You have to embrace an A for what it is...and then it's just a pleasure.
If things end, don't be vindictive or seek a revenge. You did go into the A with both eyus open. Why invlove the wife and the family in the R, if you made a consicious decision to carry on with the A. My two cents to the list.
During the bad times try to remember the good things the other person brought into your life.
My MM brought me happiness and unconditional love, he made me see a part of myself that I had lost somewhere along the way, that I was a stronger person than I believed I was, that my independence is a good thing. he showed me what it is to love another person totally, faults and all.
There are some things in life that bring pain along with joy.
Cherish the memories that live in you heart.... those can't be taken away from you
You couldn't have said any better. In the last 3 1/2 years I have never been this authentic, this genuine, and yes, this honest (with myself, I mean). It truly is the most intense 3 1/2 years of my life.
I guess my words of wisdom would be to always take care of yourself first, and to never let anyone else take you for granted. Simple, but filled with meaning, for me at least.
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The best thing about my EMA is that we are both married and from the very beginning, we were 100% clear that it was going to always be an A. Nobody was ever going to leave their spouse. I think the only A's that are happy are the ones in which both people delight in the unique type of relationship that it is — fun, private, carefree.I always tell my OMM that I LOVE being his mistress, and that I'd HATE being his second wife. He's like my private oasis. I think he feels the same way about me. You have to embrace an A for what it is...and then it's just a pleasure.
My MM brought me happiness and unconditional love, he made me see a part of myself that I had lost somewhere along the way, that I was a stronger person than I believed I was, that my independence is a good thing. he showed me what it is to love another person totally, faults and all.
There are some things in life that bring pain along with joy.
Cherish the memories that live in you heart.... those can't be taken away from you
Seeburg
Remember you may never be number one, but you'll always
be the one he remembers....
You couldn't have said any better. In the last 3 1/2 years I have never been this authentic, this genuine, and yes, this honest (with myself, I mean). It truly is the most intense 3 1/2 years of my life.
MidnightBlue
All these thoughts are so great! I agree with them all! So I will add a lighthearted one.
Cover your tracks, Cover your tracks, Cover your tracks!!!!
deedee
I guess my words of wisdom would be to always take care of yourself first, and to never let anyone else take you for granted. Simple, but filled with meaning, for me at least.
:)
Circe
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