Words of Wisdom

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Words of Wisdom
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 7:40am
I thought this may be a fun way to get us thinking this morning....

cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 11:36am
Amen, amen!!

The best thing about my EMA is that we are both married and from the very beginning, we were 100% clear that it was going to always be an A. Nobody was ever going to leave their spouse. I think the only A's that are happy are the ones in which both people delight in the unique type of relationship that it is — fun, private, carefree.I always tell my OMM that I LOVE being his mistress, and that I'd HATE being his second wife. He's like my private oasis. I think he feels the same way about me. You have to embrace an A for what it is...and then it's just a pleasure.

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 11:52am
If things end, don't be vindictive or seek a revenge. You did go into the A with both eyus open. Why invlove the wife and the family in the R, if you made a consicious decision to carry on with the A. My two cents to the list.
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 12:00pm
I would have to say - try not to let the periods of NC get you down and not be upset if he/she can't always be there for you when you need them too.
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 12:24pm
During the bad times try to remember the good things the other person brought into your life.

My MM brought me happiness and unconditional love, he made me see a part of myself that I had lost somewhere along the way, that I was a stronger person than I believed I was, that my independence is a good thing. he showed me what it is to love another person totally, faults and all.

There are some things in life that bring pain along with joy.

Cherish the memories that live in you heart.... those can't be taken away from you

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 12:26pm
Great thread....

Remember you may never be number one, but you'll always

be the one he remembers....

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 12:51pm
That's a great phrase! I might print that out and stick in to my wall - so that I can remind myself of it every time I get down. Great one!
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Registered: 07-20-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 3:24pm
Red,

You couldn't have said any better. In the last 3 1/2 years I have never been this authentic, this genuine, and yes, this honest (with myself, I mean). It truly is the most intense 3 1/2 years of my life.

MidnightBlue

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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 5:08pm


All these thoughts are so great! I agree with them all! So I will add a lighthearted one.


Cover your tracks, Cover your tracks, Cover your tracks!!!!

deedee

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 5:13pm
Great idea for a thread!!!

I guess my words of wisdom would be to always take care of yourself first, and to never let anyone else take you for granted. Simple, but filled with meaning, for me at least.

:)

Circe

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