Words of wisdom to make it last.....
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Words of wisdom to make it last.....
| Wed, 05-05-2004 - 8:51pm |
.....my A is going on 5 years with a MM. I am widowed. We ended it twice but some unexplainable connection snaps us back like a rubberband...and at least once a week we have our scheduled sexcapades :) Always intense, always a body/mind/soul encounter. Weird, eh? Or is it? My question here is this.....The other 6 days I hardly think of him, talk to him, or even wonder about him. Is it possible to actually get comfortable emotionally in an affair? Can 2 people who have never spent the night together, never had a full day together, or spent more than 2 hours together in one episode, still be this connected? His wife is oblivious to it all, as are all the people we work with. I am totally amazed at how a "have to have you now" beginning (first 2 years) has been kept secretive all of these years. Anyway, I just wanted to let those of you out there who need to know the secret of keeping a secret, appreciate the ethereal moments you do have together and try not to push the envelope into the hands of revenge, doubt, questionable behavior or self-pity. Love is unconditional no matter who is involved.

RESPECT HIM - he deserves it if you think your love is unconditional.
DON ACT LIKE HE DOESN'T MATTER - ie, don't take him for granted.
DON"T LIE TOO MUCH - there are lots of lies in an A already
I was told I am "fat" by my OM who has not done this just this time. He had done it may times in the past, I found it in my heart to love him without explanations as you saaid, but not anymore. I will take this matter to my heart - its a life long battle with weight for me which you will never understand.
I have been teased bullied and laughed at in my life because I have always been "chubby". It was partly due to medical conditions and partly genetics. Having a long history of verbal abuse from strangers who don;t know my conditions, I refuse to take it anything about my size/weight anything but personal. It was these bullies that booed me when I walked to school. I learned to ignore them, which took away their "power" over me. But i will not tolerate that from a man who i have made so many adjustments ln lfe to meet half way.
Juliet
R2L
oh btw about lying - I don't like it either. You might thing its ok to lie, but I don't. Sorry nothing can change that opinion.
As far as going to Ending, its fine. I will do just good here today. Maybe will go there when I feel like. Thanks for your suggestion.