Worried Ap is starting to put me in "the friend zone"

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Registered: 03-31-2012
Worried Ap is starting to put me in "the friend zone"
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Sun, 04-08-2012 - 11:34pm

I posted a few days ago saying my ap's w had asked for a separation. Now he knows about the other guy and has done everything he can to win her back with no luck. He is moving out next week. He has called or text me at lest 10 times a day since this started. I know this sounds good but it's always to talk about her. I am glad he feels comfortable enough to talk to me about all this but I am wondering if talking him through all this is going to land me in "the friend zone" and that is not where I want to be. The a has been going on for 3yrs and as hard as I tried to keep it light with all this going on the though that he might find another women is eating me up.

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Registered: 10-26-2010
Many people don't realize what they have until it is gone. Your AP is Loosing something that has roots and history, those things are hard to walk away from.
Will this change your relationship only time will tell and right now all you can do is support him. He does confide in you because he feels safe, you also offer him a womans point of view. Try not to worry about where it will go, live in the moment and keep an open mind. Best of luck, hugs!
~Sunny~
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Registered: 03-31-2012

Thanks I will try to wait and see what happens :)

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Registered: 04-10-2012

I think I am currently in the "friend zone" with a woman I'm debating on beginning an A with. It's not a fun place to be b/c you just don't know exactly where you stand. I've had "talks" with my potential AP about our spouses and it is nice to know you can confide in someone, and them in you.

Eventually you may have to give him an ultimatum. Or just simply bring it out. Ask him, "Where do we stand?" Maybe not great advice, just thought I'd share my 2 cents.

Best of luck!

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Registered: 03-31-2012

Thanks. It all came out the other day. I found out he kissed another girl. I lost it and