Would you go back to your old job???

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Would you go back to your old job???
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 12:35am
Hey everybody, well i was wondering how many of you met your MM or OW on the job. MM and I met through our job and sparks flew, at first i wasnt all that interested in him but when we started talking about our marriages, kids, etc. I just was suddenly attracted to him and it was mutual on both sides, I lost my job and i thought we were over since we wouldnt see each other anymore, well i let it ride for about a mth and then i called him and he was sooo happy to hear my voice, we started seeing each other on MM's day off and it was great. MM and I are no longer together anymore and it's not by my choice. He told me he loved me and left me. I have been dealing with NC for a month and a half even though he hasnt said goodbye but i have the feeling it is over anyways, i have the choice to go back to my old job where we met and where MM still works but i dont know if i can go back b/c MM has hurt me and i dont know if i am strong enough to deal with seeing MM everyday and work beside him. I have mentioned to MM about going back and at first he was telling me that i should but in our last conversation he said "no" that it was more trouble than it was worth and we could never be seen talking or anything, he just wants to keep it like this for awhile. Well i respected his input and decided not to go back but i made him promise me that we would start seeing each other more and he said we will, but he lied, i dont know what's going on with MM, i dont know if he's just busy at work, maybe having guilt feelings or basically just found another girl at work and he just doesnt wont to dump me so he runs away and avoids the whole situation. I am not decided to go back for MM or to even see him for that fact, I really liked my job and i liked the people i worked with etc, so my question is what would yall do, would you just not care about what MM would think and go get your old job back or just not take the job and pray that some other opportunities will arise. I really need some advice on this topic b/c i dont know what to do, i mean MM and I arent in the A anymore so should i still keep my promise that i made to him or just do what i feel is right. I am caught between MM and my job that i really enjoyed. Help!!!!
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:42am
Are you a head hunter??? LOL.

NAAAAAH, if I met OM a work and left if afterwards, I would never want to go back. They way are right now, its better off we are work at totally different places... LOL.

We will be all over each other if there was a chance. It could be damaging to both of our careers. lol


Juliet

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 10:21am
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Edited 10/1/2004 7:03 pm ET ET by sally289
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Registered: 08-29-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:16pm
I am deciding to go back for me not b/c of MM. I know there is an opening from a good friend i used to work with who now has became close to my H and my son, him and his finance and me and H are really close friends, he has wanted me to come back for awhile now but i just didnt know how all this would play out. I dont wont to put MM's job in jeopardy but i need a job, before i left there was rumors about MM and I and it did get to the manager and she asked us but we denied the A. i think i am just going to put my application in and see what happens. I just dont wont to break my promise to MM about not going back but he has broken all of his promises. I feel we could be professional and not let our personal life affect our job performance, i would really like to talk to him and just let him know about the decision i am about to make so when i walk in the door, MM isnt shocked but i cant get ahold of him so i will just focus on what's best for me and i guess i will deal with MM if i have to. Thanks for everyone's input, i really appreciate yall guys for being there and not judging me for the decisions i have made in my life.
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Registered: 03-30-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:40pm
hi georgia.

why does MM's opinion even matter here? this is YOUR job, not a party you might attend together. it's too bad if MM doesn't like it, but you are entitled to go back to a good job you like and want to do. so what, you two will see each other. he needs to get over it and act like an adult. you two can be civil to each other, right? so if MM doesn't like it, then let him quit.

you should definitely go back to this job, if you really want to. unless MM is financially supporting you, he gets NO SAY in your choice of jobs. EVER!

JMHO.

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