Would you leave if given the chance?

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Would you leave if given the chance?
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 12:39pm
Just wondering how many of you would leave your marriage, if the other person was willing to embrace the relationship on a full time basis?

I feel like I may be the only one!!! =-)

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 12:47pm
well i'm not really in a relationship. just flings. but there is one guy i've been talking to, but haven't gotten involved with. i have strong feelings for him. but i can't say i would leave my husband for other guy. i would want to leave for myself and be on my own to figure things out.
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 12:47pm
I've already left my marriage for reasons other than being with a MM.
cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 05-04-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 1:02pm
No other man can replace my DH. He may have his faults, but who doesn't? MY DH is a great provider, very responsible, loves me and our kids to death. As I've said before, I can't imagine my life without him. My OM could never take his place. As much as I care for my OM, he's not the type of guy I'd marry.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 1:24pm
In a heartbeat! MM & I just discussed this at lunch today. We both wished we could hit the lottery and split it with our spouses and live happily ever after! We figure 20 million would do it. Give 10 to them and we keep 10. What a dream huh?

But in reality niether of us are leaving at this point. My H is a wonderful and caring man and worships the ground I walk on. He would be completely devastated if I left.

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Registered: 02-17-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 1:25pm
I think I would. It would depend on so many circumstances... that it's hard to say for sure. I'd be lying though if I said I never fantasized about us being together full time as a real couple.
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 2:19pm
I can't believe I am saying this ...but I am not really sure. I have put my heart in a steel container ever since I became involved with mm. I am so worried of going down that "I Love You" path and all that it includes, that I have not allowed myself to really get in touch with what feelings I have for mm. He said he didn't want to leave his family, so why would I allow myself the freedom or put my heart on the line for someone who has clearly told me we wouldn't ever be together that way? BUT, if things changeed between us (of course he would have to let me kmow somehow) then he is someone I would love to have a normal relationship with, especially if my H wasn't interested in working out our issues!

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 2:32pm
I did leave but partly for my own reasons. I don't think we are item anymore, this question is moot for me. Anyway, I don't think it would have lasted for long.
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Registered: 05-04-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 3:03pm
Well, I have fantasized about having a normal R with my OM, and he and I have discussed it. He says that if he had met me before I got married (which is funny because when I got married my OM was just 13 years old... LOL) he would have been the one to marry me. And if I wasn't married now, he'd marry me in a heartbeat. But he also said that he would never ask me to leave my husband, because he feels he won't be as good a husband as my DH.

I also told him that if we lived together we probably wouldn't get along... lol We like it like this.

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Registered: 06-29-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 3:36pm
Would I leave if given the chance? Yes, in a New York minute!!!!

Virgogirl
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 4:03pm
I would leave my M for him (I think) in a heartbeat - but, the question on the table is..would they leave thier W for us????

We were joking around last week and he asked if I'd ever consider leaving my H for him - but, I didn't think at the time to ask him the same thing.

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