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Would you put up with this?
| Mon, 02-09-2004 - 12:38pm |
Some of you may know my story. I'm married, om is single. He hasn't been in much contact with me since our first ic a few months ago. Kind of ran since he was getting attached, or so he said. I thought he had changed his user name because I never saw him on-line, but the last few weeks he was back on-line. I resisted for so long, but then finally im'd him last week. We talked for a long while, it got a little sexy, it was great. Then he was on-line again over the weekend. We talked for a long while again, had some deep conversations, got a little sexy again. He wanted me to come over but my H was home. He had told me that could never happen again after we had ic, so I was a little surprised. Anyway, he was slow with his responses and I asked what was up. He said he was in a chat room and also im a guy friend. So I said well I'll let you go, but he kept saying no don't go. I said I would be back I wanted to get my pjs on and get some tea. He said you just want to go suck off your H or something. I said lol, he was sleeping and said brb. I was gone for about 15 minutes and when I came back he was like a different person. He started interrogating me about why I knew so much about his guy friend he was chatting to. He's sort of famous and I said I just knew of him, I don't know him. He said I don't buy it, why do you know so much of his connection to me (I hadn't even said anything about this). I said you just told me a few minutes ago you were iming this guy and told me how you were connected. So then he just says I have to go and I said just like that, what the f is this about. He said bye "my user name", not my real name, have a nice evening. I said this could have been so much more fun and then he slammed the door. So I called his cell the next day and left a voicemail. He didn't call back. I think he may be out of town now for a while, but I did send an e-mail asking what the hell. Who know if I'll get a reply. What could this be about? Now I'm kind of hooked again because I know he wants to hook up. I'm so frustrated I could just scream at the top of my lungs. And of course hide the feelings from H and no one to talk with. I'm trying to just go with the positive...hey he did im me and that was fun, but it ended so weird. I mean I can't figure this out. Any perspectives on this one? Also, would you be offended if your other was chatting with others while they im you, or in a chat room, or is that really no big deal? Thanks all, C

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At times that he doesn't have a problem maybe he isn't taking the drug . It has nothing to do with jerking off .....unless he did it an hour before he saw you .......I doubt that ;-)
You don't have to wish you haven't left . You had to leave and I don't think it is a such a big deal , so you left for 15 minutes .......if he can't handle it that is his problem not yours !! But his behavior shows typical for someone on some type of drug .
You shouldn't feel sad . What are you loosing here ? A man who drinks and maybe is on Prozac or maybe another drug ???? You are holding on to the good memories of how things used to be and that is why you think you are losing something here . But in reality he has changed . Looks like he was "straight" when you first met so everything was perfect .
Now he is on meds and alcohol .....trust me when I tell you you don't want to be with a man like that . Unless you enjoy living like on a roller coaster .Sometimes it will be great , and sometimes bad .
He will probably sooner or later email you back but looks to me you have bigger problems then that to worry about . If he does answer , I do suggest you try to find out if he is doing more then just drinking . Good luck .
xoxo ViperDiva
I know many people who are on drugs and they have jobs and they function very well .
Look how many actors with drug and alcohol problems , but they still work .
I once had a roommate who was a waiter . He was on Crystal Meth .... I never knew . What finally gave it away to me was when he would come home in the morning and keep his sunglasses on while talking to me in the house . I just thought that was weird .
So I confronted him and he admitted he had a problem .
Why did he lose his job ? and if that is when he changed maybe depression led to drugs either that are legal or illegal drugs . Like I said people on drugs are very moody so at times they will be nice at others they won't . Nothing to be puzzled about .
Yes it sucks to be treated like that . Because you can't understand where it is coming from. You feel you did nothing wrong , but he will know how to make you feel bad like it is your fault . Please don't feel this way . It is him it isn't you . Seems to me he has bigger issues then he is willing to admit to . Just something maybe you should be on the lookout for . Keep us posted if he contacts you and what happened .
Edited 2/10/2004 7:52:06 PM ET by viperdiva
xoxo ViperDiva
Dusty, C and viper,
Why do you want to analyze a man who obviuosly has problems in so much detail????? I think we all are adults that understand meds, alcohol and drugs don't mix.
I am not trying to convince her to stay away from the guy ...... I am just advising her to look for the signs and put two and two together .
xoxo ViperDiva
xoxo ViperDiva
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