Would you put up with this?

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Would you put up with this?
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Mon, 02-09-2004 - 12:38pm
Some of you may know my story. I'm married, om is single. He hasn't been in much contact with me since our first ic a few months ago. Kind of ran since he was getting attached, or so he said. I thought he had changed his user name because I never saw him on-line, but the last few weeks he was back on-line. I resisted for so long, but then finally im'd him last week. We talked for a long while, it got a little sexy, it was great. Then he was on-line again over the weekend. We talked for a long while again, had some deep conversations, got a little sexy again. He wanted me to come over but my H was home. He had told me that could never happen again after we had ic, so I was a little surprised. Anyway, he was slow with his responses and I asked what was up. He said he was in a chat room and also im a guy friend. So I said well I'll let you go, but he kept saying no don't go. I said I would be back I wanted to get my pjs on and get some tea. He said you just want to go suck off your H or something. I said lol, he was sleeping and said brb. I was gone for about 15 minutes and when I came back he was like a different person. He started interrogating me about why I knew so much about his guy friend he was chatting to. He's sort of famous and I said I just knew of him, I don't know him. He said I don't buy it, why do you know so much of his connection to me (I hadn't even said anything about this). I said you just told me a few minutes ago you were iming this guy and told me how you were connected. So then he just says I have to go and I said just like that, what the f is this about. He said bye "my user name", not my real name, have a nice evening. I said this could have been so much more fun and then he slammed the door. So I called his cell the next day and left a voicemail. He didn't call back. I think he may be out of town now for a while, but I did send an e-mail asking what the hell. Who know if I'll get a reply. What could this be about? Now I'm kind of hooked again because I know he wants to hook up. I'm so frustrated I could just scream at the top of my lungs. And of course hide the feelings from H and no one to talk with. I'm trying to just go with the positive...hey he did im me and that was fun, but it ended so weird. I mean I can't figure this out. Any perspectives on this one? Also, would you be offended if your other was chatting with others while they im you, or in a chat room, or is that really no big deal? Thanks all, C

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 8:34am

I can just tell - none of you sound like any kind of experts to me ;-)

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 8:45am
I'm no expert but my H is an alcoholic. That's a main root of our problems together. Anyways, it doesn't matter to me whether she sees him again, she's probably better off not anyways. Because being with an addicted person isn't easy at the best of times.

Anyways, I was only relating my experience with my H getting drunk and being on the computer hitting up on girls. And telling them he was "single".
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Registered: 11-19-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 8:46am
The drug issue is just a thought, I don't know for sure. I don't know much about it, but he always has acted a little on the strange side and would tell me how he needs sun or he gets depressed. I appreciate all the help on the subject. I don't care about expertise..just advice. He has always been a little moody. But the real problem for me now is how strange he was on im last weekend. And then acted like nothing weird happened the next day. So maybe this is common behaviour for him. Maybe it's not drugs at all, although alcohol for sure. Maybe it was just a temper tantrum like Gurl suggested. I've been so down the last few days. He has not responded but he is out of town and usually never gets on line then. I'm sad mostly because I know I need to run away from all of this. You all know it too and I thank you for telling me in such kind ways. I don't want to run because this kind of thing has never happened to me and it's been fun. The other night on im was not fun at the end, but usually it is. I never wanted a relationship with him, but he was always a friend. So I know it is probably best to just let it be right now and see what happens. I will keep you informed. Thanks everyone, C
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 9:50am

cowboy, honey, that's all you can do is wait and see whether

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 11:08am
Hugs to you Gurl, C

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