would you tell your MM that.........
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would you tell your MM that.........
| Thu, 05-27-2004 - 1:01pm |
you and H are getting seperated and/or divorced? My MM and I don't have a relationship where we talk about such issues about our lives and our spouses. We don't even talk about much of anything, how we feel! Just maybe small talk! We pretty much just have a sex relationship maybe a little more, like friends, but that's about all.. Seems like he cares about me sometimes though..
My H is getting more serious about getting separated! I knew it was gonna happen eventually, but I wanted to next year where we didn't have to pay for preschool anymore, but H can't live like this, and neither can I.
I don't want to push MM away from me. I think he's secure in knowing that I'm married and nothing can happen between us. I don't want him to think I"m an emotional nut either trying to look for sympathy! I don't know what it'll do to us if I told him! Also, I don't know if I should cuz I don't want to get closer to him like that and him knowing my personal life is gonna make me feel closer to him. Maybe he wouldn't feel the same, but I would..
Help!
Edited 5/27/2004 1:07 pm ET ET by chrissluver

I was all ready to say that you might just tell him until I read that you don't necessarily want to get closer to him.
If this is the case, I guess I don't understand why you'd even consider telling him. If the two of you don't want to be closer (and it doesn't sound like you do) then what does it matter?
Just curious. Sounds like you have it the way you want it. Maybe at some point when you start changing residences or it starts getting harder to meet with MM, just casually mention that you've moved out/H has moved out or whatever. But until then, if sex is what you both want, and sex is what your both getting... sheesh, why mess with it?
rain
chris
Why do you want to leave when all you want is a roll on the hay on the side?? You and MM seem to be happy with your arrangement, why mess it up?? Yeah, there might be a chance you might scare him away. why risk it? Be safe and be happy.
madhouseinhere
Thanks..
Chris
Chris..
This is just my opinion so take what you want...and leave the rest behind.
From this post it seems that you have your MM where you want, so you wouldn't tell him about your pending divorce. Especially if your just having sex with him. However, from reading all your other posts it seems to me that you have a much deeper attachment to him than "just casual sex" on your part. I think you need to re-evaluate what your MM means to you and be honest with yourself.
I see a huge bond that you have for him, and he has for you, as you've stated. If that is the case then you need to be open and honest about this divorce. Go from there... We're here for you dear.
jen