Would you trust him?
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Would you trust him?
| Thu, 11-13-2003 - 10:54am |
This question is for those who would like to marry their OM/MM (not everyone would). Suppose you had that opportunity. Given the nature of your current relationship, would you trust him not to do to you what he did to his wife? Never, always, only under certain circumstances? Why or why not?
Could/would he trust you? Again, why/why not?

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Tam
Likewise, MM and I feel eachother's needs that our spouse's can't fill. MM is everything my DH is not and vice versa. He has more of a hard time w/ the EMA than I because of guilt whereas when we're together it feels so "natural" for us to be ourselves which he fights at times, and I do not. Maybe that's why I don't feel guilty, because MM and I seem to be more natural around eachother. We're more FWOBs than anything else. He's younger than me and has told me that he married too young and never lived a single carefree life. That's part of the reason why cheats, and I'm not the first and won't be the last. Just stating the facts, that's all.
if he was happy with the w. this would not be an issue
I certainly wasn't looking for an affair (we are high school classmates from 40 years ago that reconnected), and hate the lying and nervousness. I never cheated on my husband in 35 years. I know I would be faithful to my MM.
On the other hand, if I think logically, if we were together, it would probably not work.
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BUT, the question about marriage, whether I would marry him if he got divorced, is most likely not. The age difference, the kid he has, him going out too much and leaving me at home to do the housework (heck no!) and watching the kids if we have any while he's out partying and drinking with his buddies doesn't look good to me. Maybe that's why the M didn't work, because there's so many issues to work out in a marriage. Now that I've had time to think about it, maybe I shouldn't get upset about minor things and just enjoy myself because there will probably be tough issues to deal with too if I married a SM.
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