wow have times changed!!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
wow have times changed!!
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 10:56pm
I am really glad this board is here, this is really not something that can be discussed with just anyone. Of course I do have one or two friends who know of the true nature of my relationship but this sure does help...okay here goes

for the past year and a half I have been involved in an affair with a married man, I am also married, but I have been seperated from my H for four years, divorce is right around the corner. The man I am having the affair with is married to my husband's sister. We have been thru alot of ups and downs over the past year and a half and both our spouses know of our relationship. He has been seperated from his wife for about 9 months of our 18 months together. Right now things are going okay, recently we have begun to discuss seriously just coming out of the darkness so to speak to everyone, our inlaws mainly and everyone else. We are seriously contemplating becoming a committed couple. Minus our spouses. Right now my MM is laying in the bedroom asleep, he has been staying with me for about a month now. I guess I just needed to tell someone about it. thankxx for letting me vent.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 11:17pm
hope everything works out for you. I wish MM was in the next room asleep instead of H right now. I can't wait until I don't have to hide my R. Good luck with everything...glad you found us.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 11:20pm
Hello, and welcome! I'm glad you found this board, and felt comfortable in sharing your story. You're right - times have changed with the internet, and it's therapuetic for me to write out my thoughts and respond to other members.

You'll find some great members here willing to offer support and their insight, while not being judgmental. It isn't always what we want to hear, and we call that "tough love". As long don't include personal details (ie names, places, etc.) it is a safe place. Since it's a public board, we do sometimes have outsiders try to "stir it up" - and if you find a post is offensive, there is a link on the right side of the page while reading that post to "report a violation".

Wow! That is some story - and quite complicated too. I imagine you have been through quite a few ups and downs, but it's good to hear that your relationship is still strong. Feel free to jump in anytime with your own insight, or to share, laugh and vent with the rest of us.

Looking foward to getting to know you - Welcome!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 03-29-2003 - 5:26am
Welcome. I just found this board last night myself. I accidently put my intro in the "off topic" area. No one knows about my EMA. My friends just wouldn't understand. It is nice to finally find a place I can talk about it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-29-2003 - 7:30am
Hi I totally agree with meow on everything she said. Welcome to the board. You'll find a few of us here day after day. We are the regulaars. Sometimes very loving and supportive and sometimes very blunt in our answers should you just happen to need a wake up call that day. We are all very good friends here and are here for each other always. Feel free to jump in anytime and we look forward to getting to know you......hooked
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-29-2003 - 6:10pm
Hi! Welcome to our sanctuary.

I hope you find the support, friendship, and occasional necessary kick in the pants here. It's a wonderful place and you won't find a better group of friends.

I look forward to getting to know you better!

-lily