Wow...things are getting weird

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Wow...things are getting weird
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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:27pm

So

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 5:11am

AP is talking of splitting the $$ with you owes you $1200! TAKE IT!! Dont go all soft on him now- you were doing so good before! You are on the opposite end of the Zen post- hes doing the nothing and youre remembering the good stuff and not the bad.

You owe current AP very little in regards to his past behavior. Dont let his doe-eyed soppy looked face suck you back into the fold when you fought so hard to get away. I have taken the liberty to remind you of a few choice things he has said & done to you from prev posts. I remembered reading your story when i first started lurking many moons ago and it stuck with me. You sound like such a fantastic and upbeat person IRL which is why i dont want you to go back to square 1!!!

Sometimes it seems like he can't talk to me unless it's something dirty

he doesn't text anymore and he ignores most of my e-mails. He has shown signs that he is jealous of my other co-worker that I was having the EA with because we are going on a business trip together.

He knows I have fooled around with another co-worker and it ended badly. AP has made it clear he has no romantic feeling for me and he won't but everytime I speak with the other co-worker I fooled around with or any of my guy friends at work he makes little comments in his e-mails like "go fix your hair & wipe your mouth now" or "I'd like to go play with you but you're busy with so&so"

I love you but not love, love.

Lets just be friends and stop fighting like cats & dogs

He decided on his own I'm being quiet and cranky because it's that time of the month. He was sitting at his desk this morning having a whole conversation with himself about it.

He is trying to get everyone in the office to call me PP, short for Pig Pen

I am not trying to throw your words in your face, but gently remind you that it has not all good times for you and if you start to feel sorry for him, you are right back under his spell.

Let him suffer!!!!!!

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 08-14-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 8:41am

I agree with you!!


The Best Predictor Of Future Behavior Is Past Behavior

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Registered: 03-27-2008
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 9:49am

I have decided to today that I need to go strict LC. He has alread emailed and asked what was wrong with me, I haven't responded and he hasn't written back. I was on his side of the office before getting stuff from the printer and he was questioning me about who was going to do my work while I'm off next week on vacation. I gave him short answers but I pretty much shrugged and told him I don't know. He wanted to know if XAP would be calling my cell so I can log in from my lap top to do things for him like I did last time I was away (I only did it because something was going on with us at the time) So I lied and said I won't have my phone so I don't think so

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 10:50am

I feel for you so much knowing the pain that you are going through. You are having to be around him every day and i am sure that is excruciating in itself. I am feeling terribly low today as well. I heard from my XAP and he is miserable which I feel disgusted with myself as it made me glad. He misses me but is still with W so I have to try harder to not pick up the phone (that or get caller ID working)

Big hugs for you today and just think of how you DID brush him off- no matter how painful it was. You know that he hurts you so much even when he doesnt mean to and that he is toxic for you. You have seen the posts that i have where women have come from that deep dark hole and now hold their heads up with the pride that comes from beating the addiction of the A. I wish that for you too.

Take each day one at a time and dont worry about the next interaction until it happens. Keep strong- you are doing great. Cry when you need to and get it out of your system, then get back up and soldier on. Tomorrow is a new day. Blessings for today dreamz.

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Mon, 09-28-2009 - 12:30pm

SB,


I just wanted to say that you always have such words of wisdom in your posts....you really are a pillar of strength for those who need it.


Keep up the good work, you're doing wonders for this community!

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 12:55pm

Thank you ijaf.

Thats humbling and i am glad when we can help each other.I know what its like to have no one to turn to in RL. Even anonymously, its such a great feeling for me that the people here give you a shoulder (albeit a virtual one) and somewhere to cry to when things get tough. Vets like sissy, caribu, serenity, trixie and many others have given me comfort even when their words are directed to others. Here, I have empathy and kind words regardless of who I am or what i did.

Also helps that my limited wisdom comes from knowing these arent my problems. As you know, answers are ALWAYS easier and clearer when the dilemmas are not your own.

Hugs to you, you made my day :)

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 08-28-2004
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 1:15pm
I have to agree with Ijaf. I love reading your responses, they have trully helped me and others in so