Is this WRONG or heading to EA or PA??

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Is this WRONG or heading to EA or PA??
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Mon, 03-01-2010 - 3:36pm

Hello all ~


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Registered: 02-23-2004
Mon, 03-01-2010 - 8:30pm
Well, the advice I've always gotten around here is that if it is not something you are comfortable sharing with your spouse or SO then it poses a threat to your relationship even if their is no physical contact between you.
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Registered: 11-16-2009
Mon, 03-01-2010 - 9:09pm
It sounds like you are in the early stages on an emotional affair. Sharing personal information, intimately confiding and just a bit of flirting. It can seem harmless or manageable but it does grow. Don't let the fact there is distance make you feel safe. My AP and I have a LDA, while we don't see each other often, we do see each other. Our R started out when we worked together and we did see each other everyday, but only became an EA and later a PA after I moved and we continued conversing. That was 8 years ago. Right now you may just say he's a good friend, but it can quickly snowball.
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Registered: 10-05-2009
Tue, 03-02-2010 - 9:37pm

slippery slope! Can't you see the huge danger signs? Of course you can, that's why you are here. You need to decide right now, do you want your marriage or this other life. Make the decision, share it with the man that needs the info, then take the necessary action. You can't have a guy friend like this, keep it a secret, and not expect it to not get out of hand, and it will get out of hand very quickly.


Let me tell you a story. I was going to school, I met a lot of new people. 1 of these people kept showing up wherever I was, we had the same classes, so it's no big surprise. We studying together a lot, in groups, or just us. then, we talked on the phone a lot, we talked about his family issues, we talked about my family issues, we talked about the weather, we just talked. Then, he met my family and became a part of our every day lives. then, then, then, well, he's in

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Registered: 01-12-2010
Wed, 03-03-2010 - 7:55pm

And let me tell you my story.