WTF? is going on?

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Registered: 07-23-2008
WTF? is going on?
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Mon, 09-01-2008 - 1:08pm
Well....please see my prev post....

well today he contacts me...once..short, sweet and a little bossy
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Registered: 11-27-2007
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 2:31pm

LT - it sounds to me like the first thing you need to do is find another job. You mentioned in your last post that you've poured time, effort and money into making HIM successful. Why don't you put the same amount of effort into making YOU successful? Your AP really is having his cake and eating it too.


All the time you put his needs above your own, you are telling him that he is more important than you, and he's enjoying that. And it doesn't sound like he's reciprocating.


Second thing I think you need to do, once you have another job, elsewhere, is consider what you are getting from AP, and if it is really worth all the pain. You don't post when you're happy (maybe you just don't need the support then) so all we see from you is all the pain; if it truly is that one-sided, then perhaps you should consider that its no longer worth it.


But please, at least start to put yourself first. If AP loves you as much as you love him, he'll come to you and it will be on new terms.

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Registered: 07-23-2008
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 4:47pm

Thank you BTDT....

Your advice is sound and great as always... Me and AP are meeting up this week to discuss things...so ill be making changes to the way things happen around here....im taking advice ive recieved here in the past and im going to tell him everything, be totally honest with him and see what happens from there...

You are right in that I only ever post the problems that me and AP go through....maybe I just dont think people want to hear me going on about how good things are for me??? (there are a lot of occasions like this, its just the hard ones hurt).

He phones me about an hour ago and I geared the subject...away from work and to be fair with you...it was a breath of fresh air....he was so sweat and was really tender with me on the phone...saying how much he'd missed me whilst on hols...that was so good to hear....its so great to have him back.....

Thanks again