WWYD?

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Registered: 04-28-2010
WWYD?
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Thu, 05-20-2010 - 4:04pm
Okay I know what the right thing to do is, but I just wanted to hear it from someone else. My EA is quickly moving toward a PA. I am on board with that, but I have an issue-I have an STD (herpes-that my hubby gave me when we were dating-he didn't tell me he had it) and have not told him because it hasn't come up yet. I am already worried about how to tell him, what to tell him and afraid he will just run for the hills. Any suggestions about how to handle this?
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Registered: 05-03-2010
In reply to: jerseygirl2010
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 4:18pm
You definitely need to tell him, preferrably before you're just about to get intimate.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 04-27-2010
In reply to: jerseygirl2010
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 4:38pm

My .02...The how to tell him: "This seems to be headed in a direction...I need to tell you something...this is how it's managed...and this is what can prevent spreading it to you." It needs to be his decision entirely to go forward or not given how he feels/his comfort level and his knowledge of herpes.


I disagree with telling him "just before" the intimate moments...If I were a guy, all fluffed up (LOL!) and ready to go when that was sprung (ha! ha!...I'm cracking myself up!!)

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Registered: 05-03-2010
In reply to: jerseygirl2010
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 4:57pm
That's why I said it would preferrable to tell him before any intimate interludes.

anotherseyes