XAP/bf/honey buns made me cry today

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Registered: 10-03-2008
XAP/bf/honey buns made me cry today
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Sat, 11-01-2008 - 11:02am

he said that his heart hurts so bad, that i wouldn't understand...it just made me cry and cry and cry and cry..and for all those that thought i should apologize earlier..you were right...i don't like hurting anyone or their feelings.

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Sat, 11-01-2008 - 12:57pm

You know what tyger, you try to carry it hard, but deep down your a cream puff just like me! God, I can almost feel the love that you two have for each other.

I must have missed a couple of your posts, because I am not sure why you two don't get back together? I remember the alcohol thing, and you not wanting to apologize, but I don't remember what happen after that. Did you two ever make up after that argument? Your AP sounds like such a good guy, and it seems as if he really loves you , and your son, so what's up w/ that? Why are you fighting it, just let it be what it was meant to be.

I agree that two people can be made for each other, like soul mates, and it be the wrong time in their lives. But I also believe that we have a hand in making our own destinies. If fate sees to it that you meet, and fall in love, then the rest is up to the two of you.

Everyone makes mistakes, and perhaps your AP's mistake was marrying the wrong person. No more would you expect to see AP pay for a speeding ticket for the rest of his life, would you think it appropriate to spend the rest of his life w/ the wrong person, because of a bad judgement call.

I am sorry for being so nosy, but I was following your post, and I missed a few days, and lost my place. Feel free to tell me to piss off if I am asking too many questions. It's just so obvious that you love each other. JMHO.

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Sat, 11-01-2008 - 2:11pm

nah justice you aren't being nosey, me and you we're cool...i guess i'm just being hard ball girl again...we never really made up after the argumen just talked and talked and talked...we talked about my son and his football games and we talked about work....we talked about what we both were doing these past couple and how we feel about one another...we just talked about stuff...


and this week we talked and saw each other at work..i do love him so very much..it's complicated as far as just the two of us being together....and it just being me and him and no wife..because #1 i don't think she's ever done anything to him..i think all is well there...there just may be some differences..and #2 i think he truly does love her....grew with her through some things and times...i can only speculate and speculation 50% of the time is incorrect...


i do love him..and am not sure what will happen from here..but we'll remain friends...

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 10-24-2008
Sun, 11-02-2008 - 1:59am

Girl! You better recognize! You love this man so much that I can feel it, and you are being that stubborn?! You messed up, just apologize and get it over w/. I know that both of you are miserable.

You know that old saying "If you always do what you've always done, then you will always get what you always got." That was said for you. If you don't learn to get past that stubborn streak, you are going to loose out on a lot of beautiful things in life. Your AP is one of them. Maybe you should talk to someone about your inability to admit that you are wrong, or did something wrong. How would you feel if the roles were reversed and he had done you wrong, but refused to apologize. Instead just talked to you as if nothing happened. It would make you angry and you would feel hurt. Well that's what he feels, even if he doesn't verbalize it. At least think about it ok? I hate to see you in such distress, and I hope that you don't take the things I said to you in offense. I only said it because I care, and I want you to be happy. Keep the faith Girl. It will all work itself out.

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Mon, 11-03-2008 - 12:32pm

i do have pride..he said that too me yesterday..we talked alot...i was red..and he wasn't even there we were on the phone..cause he called me out there..then he laughed cause he said when he was younger he used to be the same...funny huh? yeah it was...i told him i was eating at a fast food place he got mad..doesn't like to see his baby eat bad food...lol..he's wierd about me having the best..and my son too...


i am stubborn girl...i am very stubborn....i think to stand the test of time..this is gonna take time..i owe him a big one..and i have to find a big way to go about giving him that big apology...just haven't come up with anything crafty yet....we are meeting later so he can give me something else..so...we'll talk briefly then too

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Tue, 11-04-2008 - 1:59pm

hey..girl he's very hurt by what i said..i understand...we'll always be friends though..and flirty with one another..we met last night from 4p-9p and lunch today (this will never stop.we'll always remain that way..what we do know is that we cannot get enough of each others good company) ...no IC or anything

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss