Yay, he's home!!!

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Yay, he's home!!!
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Sat, 10-10-2009 - 12:00pm

Hi everyone,

AP/BF called last night to tell me he'd be home today and I can't wait to see him! The job he was on is finished now, and I'm curious to see where that will leave our R. I must admit that this distance thing has been good for us...it's almost like a new relationship, every time he comes home. It has really kept the passion that we feel for each other, alive. Not that that's all we have between us mind you...but it's kind of fun be "on the edge" a lot of the time. I mean, he was usually gone a week at a time so by the time he came home...it was all we could do to keep our hands off of each other!

So, I will be spending my day primping and preening. I hope we talk about our road trip and get those plans firmed up. I'm really looking forward to it, but I also realize that I need to get my butt in gear and find myself a job! I WILL NOT go through my separation agreement funds...that's supposed to be for retirement darn it. I do however, know how lucky I am to have those funds to fall back on should the need arise.

So, I am one happy camper right now ...I am off to research two person recipes, as I really would like to knock his socks off (kitchen wise that is!). Hope everyone has a nice weekend :0)

benska

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Registered: 08-28-2004
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 3:59pm

Hey Benska,


It's good to hear how happy you are. I can feel the joy and excitement in your words. Let us know how your date goes.

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 10:23pm

Hi caribu79,

I was happy, until he just phoned me and blew me off for the evening. Good thing I didn't spend half the day primping! Yeah, right. Also a good thing that I didn't go out and buy the wonderful meal I was planning on cooking for him...guess I had "that" feeling.

Oh well, another day I suppose. I'm just pretty ticked off at the moment. When we talked yesterday I specifically asked if I would be seeing him today, you see...I'm getting the hang of this. Yes, I love this guy but right now? All I can think of is what a prick he is. Grrrr, it's so maddening.

My girlfriend thinks I will still hear from him later...like..I'm going to roll over and let him just show up, after he reneged? I don't think so.

Sorry, wish I had a better report. The good news is, while I'm certainly disappointed...I'm not crazed with it.

benska

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Registered: 10-10-2009
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 10:45pm
Good lord woman!
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Registered: 10-10-2009
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 10:50pm
Oh man that sucks. Its the worse feeling ever. You just sit there with that annoyed feeling...ugh! I wouldn't let him roll in later. I'd make him wait. lol
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Registered: 04-17-2009
Sun, 10-11-2009 - 1:42am

Really....is this how you want to spend your life?

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sun, 10-11-2009 - 12:42pm


Hi,

I think Benska knows all of what you brought up in your post. I have seen posts of hers where she herself has brought up these points, I think though we all come to our breaking point and hopefully one day she will shift the power of his hold over her (and for any of us who are in the same position) and see that she is more deserving of this type of treatment. I believe Benska does feel he cares for her, I could never say he does or doesn't because I don't know either of them. She is an adult though and her choices are her own, reality I think she does know and what you say in your post is so true. It is Thanksgiving weekend though, so lets be thankful for what we are grateful in our own lives and pray that others have something to be just as thankful for. Take care :)

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Registered: 07-09-2008
Sun, 10-11-2009 - 4:00pm

I agree wholeheartly with BTDT's post.

 

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sun, 10-11-2009 - 4:59pm


Hi,

Lost, I've been around this board for quite a few years and your posts are ones that I have seen grow from posts of confusion to a very strong woman. I admire your growth you have done the hard work to get out of the fog. I do agree with BTDT and I'm hoping I didn't offend either her or anyone else who read my previous post. I'm feeling very melochy (right spelling? probably not!) and while I believe I understand where Benska is, I also believe she maybe at a point where she truly is questioning her future with him. I guess because it's Thanksgiving I wanted her to have some ease from the tough love approach. Only Benska can figure out her outcome and I do think it is clearing somewhat for her. I have a friend who is in a similar situation and I do know that she is holding onto that if he is still coming to see her, he must care and so on. It is so frustrating but only so because she is such a beautiful, intelligent girl, who people love to be around. So when she sells herself short for this guy, it hurts because it reminds me that so many of us do this to ourselves. But then I think, who I'm to judge, I had my own things I wanted to believe. So maybe the tough love approach is the only way to go. Still it is thanksgiving and I hope everyone enjoys some peaceful time today :)

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Mon, 10-12-2009 - 9:28am

Im sorry

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Registered: 10-10-2009
Mon, 10-12-2009 - 10:02pm
I think sometimes people just have to figure stuff out for themselves. My friends are great and I love that they take the time to give advice etc but only I can make the decisions. Some people need a reality check at times but when it comes to A's the people in them have to get out of the "fog" all on their own.

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