You Find Your AP On AshleyMadison?

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Registered: 12-03-2009
You Find Your AP On AshleyMadison?
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Mon, 05-17-2010 - 1:44pm

I was in a more EA with a friend of mine of over 30 years.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 6:09pm
Is this some kind of website strictly for people looking for affairs or something?

anotherseyes

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 6:10pm

I'm sorry nevereasy, when I got on my man hating soapbox last night, I didn't realize I was responding to a guy.lol Why didn't I know that?

I just like to jump in on the posts about online A's because I like to share my experience raise a little awareness of what could happen. I'm really not that man hating...okay maybe a little this month ;)

Scarlet

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 6:19pm
If you mean the website Ashleymadison, then yes it is a website designed for people looking for a affair.
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Registered: 03-29-2010
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 9:13am
Yup, it's actually advertised as a place for married people to connect.

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 11:55am
no need to apologize scarlet.. i do just as much man hating as you do, as i do not care for certain attitudes of my gender..
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Registered: 10-18-2009
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 3:13pm

How did it go with the guy from AM? BTW, what do you do with the paper trail of credit card bills, or other payments, as it seems you can't get anything out of it as a free user?

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Sat, 02-12-2011 - 6:06pm
~Sunny~
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Sat, 02-12-2011 - 6:16pm

LOL...no sex in 6 years, maybe not with his wife!!

But how about with another ongoing A, that he forgot to mention to the new affair partner, then it turns out, his original affair partner was also have sex on the side.

So how many people was my friend really sleeping with? She thought one, but it was his original AP and everyone she had touched to.

I also beleive if they are using AFF or AM to find one partner, there will be more. The thrill is just to great along with the temptation.

I know, there are some rare fish in that sea and I hope you find one. Good luck fishing.

~Sunny~
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Registered: 09-21-2010
Sun, 02-13-2011 - 9:06am
I met a lot of tools on AM. The thing is, you can check their background but they usually lie about their names. I met one who was completely honest, and he was looking for a real R which was refreshing. Most just want IC. I never met that guy so it never turned into anything. What you should do is email a lot before meeting. My first A was through AM and we emailed for 2 months. The pushy ones who want to meet asap, well they just want to bang. And it is a sign that they don't respect you because if they did, they would allow you the time and wait until you feel comfortable about meeting. Try talking on the phone too to get a feel. I did meet one guy on POF. So romantic. We emailed, talked. He was gorgeous. I met him and thought I was going to puke when he smiled, serious yellow corn teeth. And the beautiful part? He asked me to go into the bathroom with him and have IC. I told him "I don't scr*w in men's urinals. Sheesh. Try CraigsList. That's where I met my current AP. On men seeking women. Or put your own ad. The thing about CL is that you find the types who are hurting and are looking for a R. My APs post was so interesting. "My W cheated" those words intrigued me and we emailed for 2 weeks for hours on end. I was the only one he ever told about what happened. 8 months later, I found even more things she did. This was a man who in my eyes, was decent, but extremely hurt by how his M ended up and he wanted more then IC, he wanted what I did..a connection, love, a real love affair.
I met another guy on CL 'broken hearted, need to talk' we actually became great friends. Never met, he is single.

Many men will lie about their home life because they don't want you to view them as morally corrupt individuals. I do want the truth as well. An A should be your escape, somewhere you feel free to be you. What's the point of having an AP if you can't tell them every thing? Have that escape? Why play games. They are hard enough to be in with out the head games.

Oh and btw, you can get a 100 visa debit card and use that to pay for it. I would do CL. its so interesting to read and its free. Of course, don't become a made for tv movie and be careful. Email, insist on real names. My AP told me his real name within the first 3 emails and when he did he joked 'now go google me'. See, he knew. And I did. Found where he worked, who he was. Etc. Then we emailed for a while, talked on his office phone. Met many times in public places.
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Registered: 10-18-2009
Sun, 02-13-2011 - 12:26pm

Thanks for the interesting insight odessa. Now I see how it works without leaving tracks. I registered in AM (didn't pay), and I get emails from people, which seem to be also non-paying. Do both need to be paying members to email/talk or is one enough?

There are a lot of married women up there with their pictures, suggesting that they don't need/want to hide anything ;-)

Also, from what you said, I get the impression that women are more willing to contact men that are a train wreck?