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You'd think I'd know better
| Thu, 04-15-2010 - 1:47pm |
Well, I used to post on here oh about a yr ago under a diff name cause I forgot my log in, I ended my A about 14m ago, it kinda creeped me out that he was willing to drive 16hrs to see me, kinda a big attachment there...

Welcome back to MAS sweetie_pea!
I can't say my OM and I have the same R that you do, but I have been involved in an A (my first one) where the OM was a part of my "normal" life too. I didn't see him a lot during the "non-A" part of our lives though.
I think you should follow your gut if it's telling you to let things "die down". Anything that twists you all up isn't a good thing, right? Anyway we're right here with ya. :-)
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Though I think there could be consequences due to the fact that he's your child's coach, that's not what you asked about.
Hi sweetie_pea,
So my A is different, but my AP and I work together so maybe there are some similarities. We used to work much more closely together, but always had a reason to work on the same projects from time-to-time. We always tried to be discrete and act as if nothing was going on, but you know how people sometimes pick-up on the "vibes" others are putting out? Well, apparently it's hard to hide the vibes.
I recently came clean with a friend at work, who wasn't at all surprised. In fact, they told me it was assumed that something was going on between AP and I. Not that anyone would have thought it was a full-blown A, but clearly everyone knew we were "close".
I would guess that in such a close-knit circle, you can never be TOO careful. Someone is bound to catch you watching him or him winking at you or just noticing that you seem to be REALLY supportive of the team. A "first mom to arrive, last mom to leave". If you are going to continue this, please do your best to understand the reality of the situation and what will happen for everyone if it is suspected or discovered. If you consider the consequences upfront, at least you won't be surprised if it goes bad.
Good luck to you. I hope you find some peace.
MPV
I agree that most of the time- people can tell.