A younger man

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Registered: 05-06-2004
A younger man
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 8:36pm
I am so glad I found this board. I have been married for over 25 years, and, until recently, have always been faithful to my H, and, so far as I know, he to me. My H is a good man, and my M has been generally happy. However, for the past few years, my H has spent most of his free time playing golf and watching sports on TV, and doesn’t seem to have time for me. Also, we only make love about once per week, and I would prefer much more.

Anyway, last month, I hired a college student who lives in the neighborhood to do some yard work. The project lasted for a few days, and each day, I made him lunch. On the third day, after lunch, one thing led to another and we ended up in bed together. It was the most intense sexual experience of my life.

Since that day, the young man has come to my home every weekday after my H leaves for work, and we have two or three hours of unbelievable sex, and then he leaves for class.

My H doesn’t suspect a thing. He is aware of my “friendship” with this young man, likes him, and has encouraged me to continue to develop the relationship.

I am addicted to this young man’s lovemaking. On weekends, when we can’t make love because my H is home, I have physical withdrawal symptoms, like a drug addict. Last Sunday, I just couldn’t take it any more, so I told my H that I needed help with the housework and “hired” my OM to help me. He came over and made love to me on the laundry room floor while my H watched the baseball game upstairs.

I know that what I’m doing is wrong. He’s only 22 – younger than my youngest child. Although I don’t love him and our A is purely sexual, I do have some feelings for him and want him have a healthy relationship a girl his own age, and I’m afraid that the A is an impediment to that. Also, we live in a fairly small, close knit community, and if the A becomes public knowledge, I would be very embarrassed, in light of the age differential. However, I just can’t stop. I’m addicted to him.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 8:58pm

Hi and welcome to the board,


It's the adrenalin rush... while I've never done drugs... all but alcohol... I can imagine that it feels just like a high.

Sweet
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Registered: 05-04-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 11:17pm
As I agree with Sweet BE CAREFUL! I must say I am rather jealous! :) Though I am only 29, I would love to find a 22 year old who knows I am married and doesnt care! HAVE FUN, and enjoy it for all of us but be careful!
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Registered: 06-06-2003
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 7:14am
I gotta AGREE with you, the young guys are more than eager to please!!! We have pretty similar situations as far as the affair goes. Mine is/was 25. the sex was FANTASTIC...and he was not attached to anybody else. I have to admit it was GREAT while it lasted. Just keep things realistic in your mind. You have to know it will end, so TRY not to get emotionally attached, keep it sexual and fun. Mine is now married and I even attended the wedding (with his fiances support). We are now just friends with some GREAT memories. You are taking more "risks" than I ever did though, so try to keep things a little tamer....or it may all back-fire on you. Best wishes.