Your First Sexual Encounter?

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Your First Sexual Encounter?
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Tue, 09-02-2003 - 6:17pm
Ok, I was in a very emotional EMA but it never progressed to sex. I was just wondering, how did you feel after the first time you had sex / made love with someone other than your DH or DW....

Just curious.

Thanks for answering!

Jeli

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Registered: 06-26-2003
Tue, 09-02-2003 - 7:29pm
Dear Jeli,

I felt very confused and conflicted. On the

one hand, I had just had the best sex of my

life. On the other, I had a hard time reconciling

my actions with my self image. So how could

something that was so forbidden and wrong be

so good? You eventually work it out.

ditr

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 09-02-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey Jeli,

I shouldn't be here... things to do and people to see :) but somehow I just had to answer this one at least.

I have to say that leading up to the encounter... since we had arranged it and I had said to MM that I couldn't promise anything as I was not sure I could go through with it... but anyway... leading up to it I was terrified. I had that sinking feeling in my stomach and I felt like I was going to be sick.

However... from the moment MM kissed me... all that just disappeared... I gave myself and my body over to him. I can't explain it... I hadn't been with another man in somewhat 15 years or so and never thought that I could feel this way ever.

Afterwards... I didn't feel guilty... just wonderful and funnily enough... refreshed... I felt that new life and been breathed into me. While after 3 years... things certainly have settled between us to an extent... but it still keeps getting better and better and I still can that all new tinglyness when I know that I'm going to see him.

I can't say that the first time is ever going to be easy... and you certainly have to get the mind right and be prepared for something new.

luv and hugs

Sweet

Sweet
Co-Community Leader My

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Thu, 09-04-2003 - 1:16pm
I was surpisinly OK with it.

I felt fine. Good even.

Not guilty. Didn't indulge myself with that unpleasantness.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-04-2003 - 2:30pm
I never hesitated for a second - I had thought about how bad I wanted him ALOT and when the time came I totally indulged - afterward, I was just happy I had the experience and I couldnt wait until the next time. I dont bog myself down with guilt - it would only ruin the good in what OM and I have...if you're EXTRA careful you have nothing to feel guilty about because by not getting caught, no one is getting hurt if you ask me...

Liberal

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Thu, 09-04-2003 - 4:09pm
My first encounter was magnetic.

OM and I coudn't keep our hands

off each other. I did not feel

anything but good. It was great:)

~passion