You've lost that lovin feelin'...

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Registered: 09-02-2003
You've lost that lovin feelin'...
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Fri, 11-21-2003 - 10:23am
And it's gone, gone, gone...... I think I've fallen out of love with MM. I've mentioned I want to be FWOB- now that I know what that means :-) .... but lately I don't even feel any attraction to him. We went out to eat the other night and as I looked across the table at him I found myself wondering how I ever lusted for him. I find myself looking for excuses not to see him, or starting little spats so I have an excuse not to call him. This morning I called him when I knew he wouldn't be available- now I'm off the hook for the rest of the day. He won't dare call my house because he knows DH is off from work, but he can't say, "Why didn't you call me on Friday?" *Sigh*

I've told him I just 'don't feel that way' anymore and he says he'll wait till I do. I just don't know if it will ever come back.... I don't know if I want it to. But I like having him in my life as someone I can talk to. *Another Sigh* The good news is that DH and I have been doing great.
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Fri, 11-21-2003 - 10:29am
Sounds like you may have reached some sort of turning point. Getting more in tune with H and out of tune with MM. I am actually jealous of you if that's what's going on. I think that would be a great place to be at. To be losing interest in MM, you can sit back and really sort through your feelings and re-set your priorities for your life. I think things always turn out the way they were intended to. Maybe life is shifting you back to your H more completely and that would be a wonderful thing really, wouldn't it?
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Fri, 11-21-2003 - 11:08am
BTDT. MM can be such an pain in the butt that makes me wonder what the hell did I see in him?!?! Sometimes he can say the most cruel things in the world and send me reeling... I too feel that I have to keep my cool so that he doesn't think I am chasing after him like a love-sick puppy, ya know. Yes, its crazy. In spite of it all he can make my day by saying things like 'you the only one in the office that can do that I depend on to do something well' or something like that. Oh, god help me I am nuts!! :-)
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 2:46pm
I dont see how thats anything but a great place to be...it sounds as though youve outgrown your EMA...I hope to outgrow mine someday...lol...

Atleast you and DH are doing great opposed to you finding yourself with no interest in DH or OM/MM...good things are ahead of you girl!

cl-liberalgirl

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Registered: 09-02-2003
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 10:44am
Thanks for your responses... It's true, of course... it's good if I've outgrown MM and can focus on my M. Here's a list of my worries:

*Will I fall for MM again if we keep in touch?

*I really don't want to do 'no contact' but MM might want to.

*Would MM ever tell DH out of anger/spite? I don't think he would, but I'm still a little nervous. MM's got a lot to lose too.

Update on MM... We've been totally platonic with each other- not even flirting. I can tell he's a little upset that I won't give him any alone time, but he said he'd wait till I fell for him again. I don't think that's going to happen.

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 11:16am
Wow.... i think that's great for you and your marriage... but reading some posts today,

think about if it were you and HE was the one saying he didn't feel it for ya

anymore...... not so wonderful, right ???

Guess i am just thinking how i woould feel....

Still I agree........... if you can grow where your planted, all the better. Having an A

sucks when you haven't lost that lovin' feelin' and if you can move on from it so much

easier for you.

Even being separated 2yrs.... if I could start my M over, esp now that he is looking so

fine....(lost 70 pounds) and is not drinking so much..... I might consider it.

I am glad it happened this way for you.

Deb