Any Good Books on this Subject?

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Any Good Books on this Subject?
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Sat, 06-28-2008 - 7:14am

Has anyone found any good books that address this ML subject? I like to educate myself.

Also I am trying to get together wtih my BF for the first time. We have been a couple exclusively for about a month and dating for over a year. It has almost happened twice but due to logistics (I had to go to work one time and the other time we both had to get up extremely early the next day) it didnt happen. So I am arranging a weekend away with him. Not just for sex. We have been wanting to visit Newport RI for a long time. Is this a good idea?

Laurie

anonymous
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Sat, 06-28-2008 - 10:09am

"We have been wanting to visit Newport RI for a long time. Is this a good idea? "


As long as you don't have the high expectation that sex or any specific sexual

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Sat, 06-28-2008 - 6:44pm
Going to Newport because the both of you want to go is a good idea. It's a good opportunity for the two of you to spend some quality time together. Just don't place an expectation of sex on it. If it ends up happening, then great, but if it doesn't, it doesn't. That way there won't be anxiety or disappointment if it doesn't go to plan.

 

 

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Sat, 06-28-2008 - 6:52pm

yeah I know. I could be setting myself up for major dissappointment.

Laurie

anonymous
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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:19am

Thanks for the book recommendation.

I think I made the mistake of already placing high expectations on the weekend away. I dont even know if the issue is mismatched libidos. He's such a confusing man. He has a protective outer layer, like an orange. I am slowly peeling away the outer peel and loving the soft sweet inner person that I am getting to know. But its a slow going process and frustrating in the mean time.

Laurie

anonymous
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:13am

Newport is beautiful. I've gone twice for the jazz festivals and stayed an extra day to see it without the crowds. Great choice for a weekend.


For 1st time sex though, it could be rough. Expectations and fear (pressure) will run so high.


I really can't believe that "it almost happened twice", but was interrupted because you had to get up very early. Sounds like someone or 2 were looking for an excuse to postpone. What are you doing, searching for that magical time and place?


If you are that hot for each other,

Wishing you good luck today, and great pleasure in the future.

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 10:07am
Great post.

When you see it coming, duck!