BF with LL!!!! PLEASE HELP

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Registered: 06-16-2008
BF with LL!!!! PLEASE HELP
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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 12:31am
My boyfriend an I have been dating for about three months and what is supposed to be filled with a lot of sex comes down to once a week...I know he is attracted to me...he's always all over me and tells me how attracted he is to me. He's always "too tired"...or just falls asleep before i even have the chance to even suggest it...I've brought it up to him...and he doesnt seem to be doing anything about it...he's 27 should that not be one of the first things on his mind? I dont want to be too persistent..I dont want him to think thats all i want because i do really care about him and thats why i'm torn...please for the love of god anyone have an explanation or something i can do to at least get it twice a week? lol
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 7:58am

"something i can do to at least get it twice a week? "


Ask for it.

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Registered: 06-16-2008
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 7:00am
I would definitely talk to him about it more, I too am 27 with the same problem as you except my wife is the one that just seems not interested. I suggest you tell him you want it when you do or just get dressed up into something sexy for him to drive home the point, if he does not take you up on your offer and you are in a sexy outfit I would say that the problem goes farther than him just being too tired. Do you know if he is involved in looking at Porn? This is usually the main problem and has ruined many relationships but it starts with a decrease of desire to have sex. I learned about this when doing research for us but it was luckily not the problem. If he is addicted to it then it will be a hard road for him to quite looking at it. Just a thought and I hope it helps.
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Registered: 06-16-2008
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 2:59pm
thanks thats an idea that didnt cross my mind mainly because it doesnt bother me if he does but youre right if its an addiction and its cutting into me gettin some (lol) then its def not ok...ill try asking him...
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Registered: 06-16-2008
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 3:07pm
haha, no one get in the way of your action right? It might not be something he even considers to be a problem especially if you don't care if he looks at porn but if you research porn addictions the loss of sex drive is usually the very first thing to go.... Keep us updated with how it works. My question is how on earth is everyone not driven by sex, it is one of the best things ever!!!!! LOL
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 6:24pm
You've only been seeing each other three months. So at this point I suggest that a good talk is in order to see if the two of you are on the same page. You haven't been together that long, and it's early enough in your relationship to decide that you aren't compatible, if it comes down to that.