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|Sun, 06-22-2008 - 7:37pm|
Just looking for your feedback on this?
I have just split up with my boyfriend of 5 years. For the first 2 years we had what I considered a good, regular sex life although I was a virgin when we met and he sometimes commented that I did not fully "let go" during sex.
WE had a long didtance relatuonship and met up every 4-6 weeks. To all our friends and families we had a perfect relationship. WE got on very well, best friends, found each other very funny and he constantly told me how much he loved me, how gorgeous I was etc. In fact it was embarassing for my friends and family as he was constantly draped around me and kissing me. I enjoyed it but it began to anny me as it was never followed up in the bedroom. From one visit to the next, 2 years into our relationship, he lost interest in me sexually. I was always the one who had to initiate sex and he avoided it as far as he could. Eventually it got too embarassing for me and I stopped. He never wanted to talk about it although I brought it up several times, crying , saying to him, I cant cope with this, you say you love me but you love me like a sister, not a lover. He always promised to do something about it but did nt. I have to admit that I was insecure about the fact that he did nt fancy me and so I backed away from trying to do something about it myself. We talked about babies and our future lives together regularly. He know I wanted babies and he said he did too, although I sometimes commented that it woudn't be possible without sex. In hindsight I was stupid but I loved him so much and believed him when he told me he loved me. We were long distance for 4.5 years and talked on the phone for an hour everyday, we were best friends. I moved to his country, leaving a good job, my friends and family (to whom I am close) 8 months ago. The transition was very hard for me due to language difference, a tough new job, not having any friends etc. And we still did nt have sex. I began to resent him, constant fights....we came back from holiday in april and I had asked him to either do something about the problem or let us break up now... he promised to do something, did not want us to break up.. I gave him a deadline of 6 months as I said I needed to have 1 year in this job for my cv