chat rooms

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Mon, 05-25-2009 - 11:28pm
I'm just wondering if anyone has found chat rooms to talk to the opposite sex as a way of connecting to the opposite sex given the frustration over not having enough sex? I use to go to yahoo's site but I get bombarded by professionals wanting me to view their webcams. I just want some intimate conversation.
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Registered: 10-31-2005
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 1:55pm
Nah...why would I want to increase my frustration level by talking to MORE women who will not have sex with me :/

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Registered: 04-28-2009
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 2:24pm

That's a slippery slope. I mean, I get what you mean. It's fun to talk sex. Women have way more outlets for this than men. We talk to our friends. It's not an "I want to do this to you" situation. But you get to talk about the things you like to do, the things you wish you could do more often. The talk gets very intimate and it's arousing in a safe way. But men don't have that kind of outlet with their friends (I don't think). And it's dangerous to start with members of the opposite sex because talking that leads to arousal can lead to activity. Slippery slope, man.


Unless you're looking to have an affair. That's another discussion.


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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 3:37pm

Women have way more outlets for this than men. We talk to our friends...you get to talk about the things you like to do, the things you wish you could do more often. The talk gets very intimate and it's arousing in a safe way. But men don't have that kind of outlet with their friends (I don't think).


I agree that men rarely do this. If we do, it tends to be either chest-beating comparing notes or complaining

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Registered: 02-02-2004
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 4:22pm
Stop trying to pretend you aren't already babbling incoherently to yourself.

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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 5:10pm

Stop trying to pretend you aren't already babbling incoherently to yourself.


Hey! I resemble that remark! And trying to convince the world I'm not insane.

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Registered: 04-28-2009
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 05-26-2009 - 9:45pm

So if men can't talk with other guys about sex...


Feel free to talk with other men. I didn't say you shouldn't. I'm just saying it's not my experience that guys tend to do it.


It's arousing in a safe way...


I take that back. The times I have found the chatter arousing, it has been when men are around. When it's women, we share very intimate details but it's an academic excitement that happens, not arousal. "You tried that?! Fascinating. What happened next?"


...talking with other members of the opposite sex is a slippery slope to an affair...


Maybe it's just me (I doubt it) but when men are involved in the sex chatter, it stops being an academic conversation and becomes more of a menu.


bh

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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 12:56am

Feel free to talk with other men. I didn't say you shouldn't. I'm just saying it's not my experience that guys tend to do it.


As I said, it's also my experience that guys tend to have very limited conversations about sex with other guys

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Registered: 04-28-2009
In reply to: manunit
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 8:50pm

I can't relate. I'd be pretty happy if my DH would have a sex chat (with me, with my friends). I wouldn't complain. There would be no punishment. Well unless, of course, he was into that. I acknowledge I am not every wife.