Confused & rejected
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|Mon, 03-02-2009 - 10:27am|
So I've been going out with someone for a month and a half now. He's almost 40, I'm 10 years younger.
I noticed the first few times we had sex that he didn't always cum. Didn't say anything right away cause it's a sensitive issue for a lot of people. When I mentioned it (after feeling severely rejected for the millionth time), he said he didn't know what the problem is. That in his last relationship, that was very long, his g/f only wanted sex about once a month. Then he was single for a year, with barely any sex. He thought maybe he just isn't used to so much sex (a few times a week!).
So I said okay, we'll work through it. He seems to be enjoying himself regardless, and I always do.
But now, a few weeks later, we're down to once a week. After a month and a half! He just doesn't attempt anythign sexual, although he is very loving and we have a wonderful relationship besides this very large issue. I feel like we should be having sex at least once a day at this point in the relationship, but I am sympathetic to his problem. I just can't bear to have sex once a week for the rest of my life! Or, more like, once a month, since it's already so bad after only a month and a half.
I just feel like I can't talk to him about this because I don't want to pressure him any more, he obsiously feels pressured already. Are we doomed? What should I do? I don't think I have a particularly high libido, but I feel so rejected every evening we go to sleep with just a good night kiss..