Dh's HL is driving us apart

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Registered: 08-14-2000
Dh's HL is driving us apart
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:19pm

He is threatening separation.

In peace,

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:39pm
his disrespecting you to others is a serious problem
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 6:58am
Ditto what "mrsdonna31" said...
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Registered: 11-29-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 10:27am


While his actions/disrespect may-or-may-not be the initial cause of your LL, it certainly can't be helping!

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 10:49am

You say you feel like he disrespects you, how?

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 6:47pm

>>In a way I guess I deserve him to leave me because of my LL.<<

Honey, this is not about what you deserve. Nobody deserves to be treated with disrespect, regardless of their libido level. First of all, this is about

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:05pm

I don't have anything to add that the others haven't already mentioned.

If he disrespects you in public, it's hardly going to make you feel close to him. So that needs to be addressed. At this point I think that with him threatening separation, then you need to suggest counselling.



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Registered: 08-25-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 5:41pm

It sounds like there is a lot of baggage here, all the way around.

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 11:51am
Well, I have something to add. I think the lady should get to work on getting herself in better shape in order to improve her health.
Once this is accomplished, she will find that there are many things she wasn't interested in doing, that will be far more viable after losing weight.
Lastly, once she is in shape, she can work on sheding the other 150 to 200 pounds she has been saddled with in the form of her "dear" husband.