Do other HL's feel this pain?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Do other HL's feel this pain?
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Mon, 01-12-2009 - 3:02pm

As an HL, I get a feeling of pain, always on an emotional level and sometimes on a physical level, when I think of what I'm missing out on due to the ML in my relationship. Typically this comes up when I see the headlines on the covers of women's magazines about how to please a man, see advertising for lingerie, swimwear

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2007
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 3:26pm

Yes, it still happens to me, but not at that deep level of pain.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2008
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 4:32pm

Does this happen to other HL's?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2007
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 4:45pm

"Lets **** in that photo booth.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2006
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 4:59pm

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Yes, exactly as you have stated.


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I went in the wrong direction for a while but some things that I have used to help ease the pain since;


1. I've already had more good sex in my lifetime than the average 10 men added together will in their's (an exaggeration but the number 10 works for me).


2. I could have what I'm missing with a single phone call (which I never make btw).


2.5 With this same woman in mind, an extreme HL woman is more likely to sleep around.


3. There's hope for things to change in the future


4. I refuse to beg (why add

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2007
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 5:05pm

Does this happen to other HL's?


Yes, I would suspect it happens, or HAS happened,

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-11-2009
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 6:50pm
...which would mean that an extremely HL male is more likely to sleep around?..
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-11-2009
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 6:52pm
I am the relative LL in my marriage...as I was the literal LL in my first...I am positive that my first husband felt all of those same neglected feelings...I intend on making sure that my second husband does not...
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 01-12-2009 - 7:35pm

...I intend on making sure that my second husband does not...


By marrying an LL or by giving him what all HL's want in spite of your feelings? And if the latter, what's your plan for dealing with the negative feelings I have heard other LL's on this board express they have experienced in trying to satisfy an HL?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2008
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 1:37am

Like everyone else YES I have experienced and continue to experience that pain.


For me it just goes on and all you can do is avoid what causes the pain. If certain things makes you feel worse avoid those things. Rather bad resolution but what else is there to do?

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 3:39am
Add me to the list.

When you see it coming, duck!

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