"Early warning" of a no-sex night?

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"Early warning" of a no-sex night?
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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:36am

Folks,


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Registered: 12-19-2007
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 10:10am
>>I feel like she is the one that decides WHEN and IF we have sex....so it is only fair that I be "informed" about things as soon as they are known.<<

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Registered: 07-24-2007
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 1:03pm

Good question himba and for my wife, I usually do get some sort of hint the minute I walk in from work. The two most common, by a landslide, would be she has a headache and she is tired, or sometimes both. When I hear either of those two things, I immediately know nothing can/will happen that night. IF I don't hear that immediately, there might be a chance but I have to be willing to try for it and many times honestly it is not worth the bother because I know my odds are probably around 25%.


As I posted earlier today, a little while back, when it had been almost two weeks for us and it was a weekend night-which increases my odds, I had not heard a peep about her being tired or having a headache. I went to bed, she followed, but turned the light out and rolled over, signaling no sex. Well, I gave it a shot and low and behold we had some good sex. After we had finished she mentioned that she had been fighting a headache all day, so obviously I was shocked she went along with sex. But, that just goes to show, if the LL partner will just do it sometimes, instead of finding reasons not to do it, and then the HL partner will just go for it sometimes, instead of just waiting on a signal, it can be possible for both parties to be happy. It is just really difficult to read LL women, not sure about LL men but certainly I can say this is true for LL women. I feel like if you wait for everything to be perfect or for them to initiate, you will be waiting a long time. That being said though, if you get tired of hearing no, not tonight, you have to really grow a thick skin not to take a no personal. I don't think it is personal at all but hearing no, I don't want you tonight, from the person you want so very much can be very difficult to take. The LL person really never has that feeling of not being wanted because they know anytime they want sex, they will get it more than likely.

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 1:49pm

>>>>> The LL person really never has that feeling of not being wanted because they know anytime they want sex, they will get it more than likely. <<<<<


Well, maybe not while the HL remains in active pursuit mode.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 11-29-2007
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 1:56pm

I don't mean to laugh, but I can certainly see how the term "corpse" might start a pretty quick downhill slide!


I have to say that I agree with you.

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Registered: 11-29-2007
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 2:00pm

I don't know about you personally but many

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Registered: 12-17-2007
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 2:26pm

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Ah, but you are using the availability of sex as the "bar"

 

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 2:43pm

You hit it right on the head, Locogirl.

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Registered: 11-29-2007
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 2:56pm

It sux for sure.


No kidding, there's the understatement of the century!


Sadly, it all always seems to come back to a basic, fundamental difference of how LL's and HL's feel and express love/intimacy.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 3:01pm

>>Sadly, it all always seems to come back to a basic, fundamental difference of how LL's and HL's feel and express love/intimacy.<<


Yup, that's true.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 3:08pm

>>>>> Sadly, it all always seems to come back to a basic, fundamental difference of how LL's and HL's feel and express love/intimacy. <<<<<


Yes, exactly.


My wife was very "wild" when younger.

When you see it coming, duck!

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