Frequency Question

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Registered: 07-08-2008
Frequency Question
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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 8:09pm

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 8:15pm

you are not abnormal, you are just not on the same page as your bf. i am up for sex everyday if the opportunity presents itself, but then again so is my SO. There are times when one of us is tired, but we always make up for it after a nap..lol

you are not abnormal and neither is your bf, you just have a higher desire than he does. sit him down and talk to him, he may not even realize that this is a problem for you.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 8:19pm
well the average is supposed to be about twice a week, I think.
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Registered: 07-08-2008
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 8:21pm
Thanks for the reply.
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Registered: 05-22-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 8:35pm
you're welcome...
in my opinion hl/ll is relative to the perspective partners. a person can be hl with one partner at 3 times a week, but if they were with a different partner that wanted sex 8 times a week then that hl would be perceived as ll. i think truly ml relationships revolve around one partner never wanting to have sex, or maybe once every few months and expecting the other to be fine with it. as long as the two of you are aware and willing to work on it, you can maybe find some workable solutions like other ways to find pleasure besides actual intercourse.
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Registered: 11-16-2008
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 10:41pm

Who knows!


I would at least every day if my partner was willing. He prefers once a week or so. I am sure I am probably higher than the average and I am sure he is probably lower. I could probably go every second day and not get too frustrated however my partner could probably go a month and it not bother hime much.


I asked my doctor once and he said for most men it is every three days (which is 2.3 times a week, so I guess that is like twice a week but three times a week every third week if you want to get perfectly statistical).

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Registered: 07-24-2007
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 8:56am

Wow, I have not heard the average is 2x a week. But, I think it depends on your life circumstances-young children being a major factor. I know for my wife and I, it is 1x a week and that amount is pretty much set in stone. I would prefer 2-3x a week and I think she would prefer at most 1x a week, maybe 0x a week. I think if you are newlywed or not married yet with no kids, it would be higher but then again,

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 10:46am

HL and LL can be either relative or absolute.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 2:19pm

you will have to kiss alot of frogs before you find someone willing to match that frequency


LOL

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 3:40am

I'm not in a ML relationship now, but when I was, our average was once every 1-3 months. And that was only because I brought it up in desperation, and he would give me pathetic pity sex in response, which wasn't even worth the effort. Otherwise it truly would have become a sexless relationship.

Now I'm with someone wonderful, and after my experiences in my last relationship, I make a point of never turning him down unless I have a damn good reason for it. He does have a higher libido than me, but not by much, and our sex life is great. Sometimes we might not have sex all week because of his university commitments, and other times we will have sex every day at least once, more on weekends.

 

 

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 5:26am

What is "normal" is relative to your perception. We all perceive the world differently so normal for each of us is going to be different. For one person normal might be, 3X a day. My wife would perceive that as perverted. I would perceive that as Lucky. See the difference? My wife thought normal was maybe once a month. I was once a day. We settled once once a week. So, what is normal? It is an impossible question to answer because every person has a different perspective on the reality of what is normal.


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