Had to let her go

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Had to let her go
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 5:27pm

I'm the only guy she's been with in regards to

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 5:14pm

Excellent advice and thank you.

I have no plans to go beyond a

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 10:26pm
Well, at least make them friends with benefits. :)
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 12:42pm

I have given it some thought but to date, that has never been who I am and I'm not sure if I want a major make-over at this stage of my life.

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Mon, 03-26-2012 - 1:15pm
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Mon, 03-26-2012 - 2:06pm

It's hard to blame her for anything since her only real crime is not having the time and experience to know who she is yet.

The good thing is that I got more done around the house this weekend than I have in the last six month.

However, after getting my hair cut on Saturday morning by a woman that I share a light flirting dynamic with, I realized that going 6 months between relationships is going to be as big of

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 03-26-2012 - 2:33pm
>>It's hard to blame her for anything since her only real crime is not having the time and experience to know who she is yet.<< This is definitely the price to be paid for hooking up with a girl so much younger than yourself, Glenn.. You will probably fare better next time around.
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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 1:41pm

Just read a post in the affairs section about a guy who was 'there' for a woman who spent 6 years figuring out what she wanted out of life while she was sexual with her affair partner, possibly others. His reward? He ended up with her as the prize.

Prize aside, I'm missing my new best friend way more than the sex, or so I'm telling myself. Can I be strong enough to avoid having sex with her should I resume the friendship as it more or less was, between the sexual exchanges? Will it even be worth it or will the lack of sex dilute

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 1:53pm
THIS is what happens when you make one person the center of the universe! STOP IT! She's not the last woman on earth, and she's not your only friend in the world.....and if she is, well you need to make some different friends, pal. It ain't healthy. You can bounce back and recover, but you have to get proactive about it and stop pining away. Don't tell me you aren't pining, I can see it right on my screen in black and white. Call a buddy and go running, or to watch the game or to the latest action movie, or biking, or some other activity you enjoy. If you have no buddies, you had best get a plan for making some...ASAP.
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 2:20pm

I have buddies and have been very, very active since separating.

Doesn't mean that I don't miss the friendship that we had.

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 2:24pm

Of course you miss her. But if you maintain No Contact (as you know you need to, for both of you) it will get easier much sooner.

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