Had to let her go

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Had to let her go
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 5:27pm

I'm the only guy she's been with in regards to

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 03-29-2012 - 6:42pm

Thanks but I've had a week and a half to formulate that response,

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Fri, 03-30-2012 - 7:20am

Wow, what a mentor for a young person!

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Fri, 03-30-2012 - 1:19pm

I agree but it is very encouraging to hear it from an outside source.

I discussed this with her the last night we were together and we agreed that in exchange for what I had given to her, she had provided comfort during my time of loss and adjustment from a 23 year marriage to being single again. We strove to keep equity in the relationship throughout and I can't praise highly enough the value that it brought to our time together, even into our parting.

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Fri, 03-30-2012 - 9:20pm


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Registered: 01-11-2012
Fri, 03-30-2012 - 9:42pm

I think Hold meant that he was pre-rejected, which means that he didn't get a chance to even initiate because she headed him off by saying something like "I'm tired" or "My head hurts" etc.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Sat, 03-31-2012 - 1:16am

Yea, I saw this spring fever thing coming up every year, if not at times in between and sooooo could not live like that.

Better that I get free of it and she discover what she values in regards to romance and sex. It just kills me that I can't even ask how her day/night went because she knows I'm not ready to hear about her experiences with other guys. Basically were down to how did you sleep and how about the weather?

Unbelievable contrast.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 10:24am
Sometimes no contact at all is easier than surface pleasantries.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 12:03pm

I tossed that out the night of the break up but in all honesty, I would eventually like to return to the type of friendship we had before becoming romantically involved if at all possible. Still, maybe no contact would get us there better and/or sooner. We agreed that we are still both good people which may sound

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 2:17pm
I agree, you got more than you could have hoped for and avoided an ugly ending. Chalk that up as a huge win and move on. You have done marvelous so far in handling the disengagement. Don't slip now.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 5:10pm

Thanks but now this is bothering me.

I too have returned to my faith-based roots in this time of need. I hate that we're even alike in the way we are dealing with this loss. Makes me want her all the more.

I just hope she's not reading any of this.

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