I'm the only guy she's been with in regards to
Honeslty, I tihnk you are reading too much into it and looking for similiarities, etc,
Thanks, I'm still on track but as with mourning any loss, the mind always wanders to the easy way out.
Last night she asked why I don't initiate conversations now or respond to her initiations unless I can do so within a few minutes and I told her that I refused to risk interrupting her goals. She responded that she was not in a relationship nor was she planning to get into one so there was nothing to interrupt. I reminded her that I said 'goals' and nothing about a relationship. Then I went on to explain that
Yesterday was the first NC day with my ex gf. I'm still only responding to her if I can do so within a few minutes and for the last couple of weeks, we haven't exchanged more than 50 words each, per day... basically pleasantries. I can't blame her if she has given up on me as I offer her nothing but continued freedom.
After work today, I'm going for coffee with the 'hottie' that I worked with several years ago. Her life is a mess atm but I know how much potential that she has so I'm looking for a friendship only as well as a co-sufferer in my six month stint of singledom. Now that I have a better understanding of the benefits of equity within a relationship, it will be interesting to see how and where I can apply it to what would otherwise be a lopsided scenario (me as rescuer). My first condition of friendship was that she make one positive change in her life each week and make it stick. These will be discussed between us
By equity I do not mean a perfect
When you see it coming, duck!
About a week after we broke up, we had a lively text exchange and I ended up saving one of her text which I refer to at least one a day to help keep me on track.
"I don't ever expect to have a better relationship. I can't even imagine such a thing exists. I just want to experience sex with other guys and I don't want to marry the first guy that I had sex with."
That pretty much sums up our situation and I only posted it here to say that female, familial submission can work for both parties.