I'm the only guy she's been with in regards to
This is really interesting stuff....
I'm reflecting I have this belief about people which is that - from an early stage - they are immensely sophisticated, powerful, complex and resourceful.
I'm not so self-impressed to think that my xgf can't find another relationship as satisfying as the one we enjoyed together, especially considering she will probably end up with a guy who won't be using a cane when she's still a spry 50 year old.
What would you be using the cane for, I want to know?
It sounds like your relationship is
The cane was figurative as I would be in my 80's when
Sounds like she needs a friend, and you too. I would not want to be in her shoes. Women need to be financially independent, but that's a whole different thread!
"The cane was figurative as I would be in my 80's"
That's your age-ist limiting belief!
As of yesterday, I
When you see it coming, duck!
That was hilarious but wait til I hit the 6 month mark. I assume I'll be at least to the middle of the pack?
Seriously though, I think what makes it easy is not having a SO around that you would otherwise expect sex from. I couldn't imagine putting forth the energy that I did toward my gf just for the emotional connection alone, much less so my ex wife with a mortgage and co-parenting our four kids. In fact, without the sex I don't think the level of emotional connection could be more than 10% of what it